What Does It Mean to Be Sexy for Women and Men?

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The discussion centers on the definition of "sexy" in both women and men, exploring various attributes that contribute to this perception. Participants express that sexiness is not solely about physical appearance or wearing revealing clothing; rather, it encompasses intelligence, personality, and a sense of playfulness. Many agree that qualities like loyalty, sensitivity, and the ability to engage in meaningful conversation enhance attractiveness. The conversation also touches on the idea that sexiness can be subjective and culturally influenced, with some participants noting differences in perceptions between Western and Middle Eastern cultures. Humor and confidence are highlighted as appealing traits in men, while women are appreciated for their individuality and imperfections. Overall, the thread emphasizes that true sexiness combines both physical and intellectual attributes, along with a genuine personality.
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How to define a woman sexy?
Can a man sexy too?
Does sexy mean "wear scantily" ? :biggrin:
 
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One word: "Evo"
 
Evo is sexy?
Maybe!
 
she's got that "je ne sais quoi" thing. (pardon the bad french :redface:)
 
Dang, I thought this was the philosophy forum. A sexy [attractive] woman is intelligent, sensitive, loyal, attentive, athletic, old, sickly and... very wealthy. One of my favorite pick up lines is: "was that your BMW with the handicapped parking sign I just keyed outside?" ... just kidding, I would settle for intelligent, sensitive and loyal.
 
Chronos, I just broke my walker when I dropped my purse, and leaned over to get it. I was thrown out of balance, as my purse was straining from the weight of my pension checks. Could you be a sweetheart and help me up?
 
For me, the main line that she has honor, and not making herself as "exhibition" for every lust-looker. She should be sensitive, and makes the person feel comfortable with her as a human being. Personally, i found really attractive when she is polite, and intelligent, and the most important thing not silly or loud, my lord how loud people get my skull angry
 
As far as looks, well, that's not hard to figure out. Just look at men's magazines (no, not womens magazines like cosmopolitan). As far as personality...playfulness is very important, and I think being interested in some of the same things as well as being interested in some 'guy' things are very attractive qualities.

For example, in the latest Maxim magazine, they asked random hotties on the street to do the Heisman pose. Only one of them knew how to do it, and they put a star by her and in big letters "She's a keeper!". Perfect example of most men's mentality.

I also love it when a woman can beat me at something. My girlfriend can spit about five feet further than I can. I'm too good at most things for most girls my age to beat me at them.
 
too me nothing is sexier than a woman with a dirty mind
 
  • #10
Math Is Hard said:
Could you be a sweetheart and help me up?
:smile: To Chronos : Dude, I think she likes you[/color]:smile:

I agree with MIH, Evo has this "I don't know what" :wink:
You know, when a room is full with the most beautiful models, and you can't decide which one is the most beautiful. :rolleyes:
And suddenly, Evo gets in, and even the models stare, jalousinlgy, towards her. :!)
Of course, it is not merely plastic. It is a conjonction of so many little details, all in the right place, which leads to such a perfection. :approve:
 
  • #11
Well, the girl that i love i got attracted to her becuase she has a really strong character, in the school they know i have very very thick red lines and i was breaking "many noses" of people i felt angry from.

I got attracted to her after a fight [it was misunderstanding] I was damn angry at some group, and she was on of them, there was some guys there but she was the only one who do really speak, and i did not break his, i mean her nose...still she was not rude nor too manly or too girlish, she was intelligent and mature at tht time [ and still :approve: ]
 
  • #12
Saint said:
Can a man sexy too?
Only a sexy man could have Evo for instance. :smile:
That's the only way to ensure that a man is sexy : look at his woman ! :rolleyes:
 
  • #13
you see -- want to know? ask the Frenchman!
 
  • #14
Math Is Hard said:
you see -- want to know? ask the Frenchman!
o:)
It is because in France we do not have such a stereotype for the "sexy woman". I think you have this http://www.waldorfhomeschoolers.com/kitrolls.jpg obsession that leads so many women to use surgery.

But this is a pity ! At the same time, everybody knows how the exchange student can be succesful, only because she/he is "exotic".

In fact, perfection is boring. Only departure from perfection is interesting :wink:
 
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  • #15
Blonde with BIG tits!
 
  • #16
Andy said:
Blonde with BIG tits!
ya know dude, once you've had hundreds of them, you'll appreciate a little conversation :-p
 
  • #17
Yeah yeah, this is why i found it strange that some guys fall in love with some women before they know their names...before they speak to them, the "like" there bodies and thus they think they like them. Welcome in the human matrix: where there is computer and robotic behavoiur, emotion-free. :approve:
 
  • #18
What / Who the hell is Evo ?
 
  • #19
I think it was the comedian Lenny Bruce that said Men want a wife who is a combination Sunday School teacher and a $55.00 a night hooker.

The idea is right on target with what I find sexy. A woman who is a little shy and innocent, but has a naughty side and yet she blushes when that side shows.
 
  • #21
gggmmm said:
What / Who the hell is Evo ?
Not a whore.. definately not a whore...
 
  • #22
hi Q or g

The most sexy thing in a man to me is intelligence. A really high IQ with a really lowly chronic sense of humor.

A sexy woman...I agree with Andy but only for about six seconds.

Kurt Cobain (genius with words and humor to match) was the most sexiest gentleman to me. Kurt was also very sensual and that was ONE of the many qualities that came through his music.

Anything plastic or bleached is not sexy to me. Sorry Barbie, I do enjoy your posts MathIsHard. :smile:

A woman/man expressing their sensualtiy is something entirely different.

Aunt Jemima has it going on in that department. She rocks/rocked.

So as not to confuse anyone, I define love, lust, sensuality - ad infinitum differently.

Extreme Intelligence and Extreme Humor to match totally rocks my boat every time. Why else come to this forum? :devil:
 
  • #23
I think guys can be sexy too.. otherwise there wouldn't be so many gay guys (and straight women) around :P
 
  • #24
cyby said:
I think guys can be sexy too.. otherwise there wouldn't be so many gay guys (and straight women) around :P
Statistics show that about 1 in 10 people are gay, assuming this is equal for men and women, does that mean that only 1 in 5 men are sexy since only 1 in 10 are gay?
 
  • #25
humanino said:
ya know dude, once you've had hundreds of them, you'll appreciate a little conversation :-p

I have heard this before, but I have never had hundreds of them. It seems I'm the only man in the world whom hasn't happened something like that: being bored about silly blondies. When will be my turn? I want to be bored!
 
  • #26
Oh, yes, men can definitely be sexy. I think it has a lot to do with attitude and not much to do with appearance. When they've mastered the perfect gentleman routine holding open doors and always letting the lady walk ahead of them through those doors, know how to be funny and laugh at themselves, when they exude self-confidence but not cockiness, when they know they time to set aside the jokes and be serious, and when they arrive home sweaty from a hard day's work, not just some work-out at the gym, that's sexy. It doesn't hurt if he can cook (a man in the kitchen is very sexy). A little in the appearance department helps too. He shouldn't be completely wimpy and flabby, but being in reasonably good shape with just enough fat so he doesn't look starved (I find "real" looking guys far sexier than those models with six-pack abs...bleck!)
 
  • #27
Men are always in the kitchen... except at home! I find that grossly disturbing...
 
  • #28
Saint said:
How to define a woman sexy?

A beautiful face. Some little imperfections such as freckles, crooked teeth, healthy average frame, some wrinkles is highly appealing, and a woman who's taller than me.

And somebody who thinks I'm the greatest thing since ketchup! :biggrin:
 
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  • #29
I do like the idea of being incredibly, even romantically, attracted to someone before I ever meet them.. just from online chatting and all that. Intelligence can be incredibly sexy, independent of gender.
 
  • #30
Origionally posted by xck
A sexy woman...I agree with Andy but only for about six seconds.

A damn good 6 seconds though
 
  • #31
Origionally posted by moonbear
Oh, yes, men can definitely be sexy. I think it has a lot to do with attitude and not much to do with appearance. When they've mastered the perfect gentleman routine holding open doors and always letting the lady walk ahead of them through those doors, know how to be funny and laugh at themselves, when they exude self-confidence but not cockiness, when they know they time to set aside the jokes and be serious, and when they arrive home sweaty from a hard day's work, not just some work-out at the gym, that's sexy. It doesn't hurt if he can cook (a man in the kitchen is very sexy). A little in the appearance department helps too. He shouldn't be completely wimpy and flabby, but being in reasonably good shape with just enough fat so he doesn't look starved (I find "real" looking guys far sexier than those models with six-pack abs...bleck!)

Thats me, no I'm being serious that really is me. Dont spose your single are you moonbear?
 
  • #32
Andy said:
Thats me, no I'm being serious that really is me. Dont spose your single are you moonbear?

Andy, no doubt you'll find someone closer to home...and closer to your own age. :biggrin:
 
  • #33
Well how old are ya?

oh and i have somebody else been seein her for 6 months now, but its nice to keep your options open. :-p
 
  • #34
humanino said:
ya know dude, once you've had hundreds of them, you'll appreciate a little conversation :-p
I hope you're not speaking from personal experience, although that "Hooter's Girl of the Month" (she was Miss February?) you were dating certainly falls into that category. :devil: :-p
 
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  • #35
The_Professional said:
...Some little imperfections such as freckles, crooked teeth, healthy average frame, some wrinkles is highly appealing...
This is very true. Beauty and interest is in these little imperfections. I don't care for the classic "flawless" beauty type.
 
  • #36
Evo said:
I hope you're not speaking from personal experience, although that "Hooter's Girl of the Month" (she was Miss February?) you were dating certainly falls into that category. :devil: :-p
Those were purely theoretical considerations of course :rolleyes: o:)
Was it not miss october ? :-p :biggrin:
Yet, I would not use the term "dating" for this kind of... :redface:
 
  • #37
some said marylyn monroe is the sexiest woman of america, agree?
 
  • #38
Smurf said:
Statistics show that about 1 in 10 people are gay, assuming this is equal for men and women, does that mean that only 1 in 5 men are sexy since only 1 in 10 are gay?

Dude, i can make now a statistics company, and make a couple of people with money and celebrites support me, and claim that i found 3 of 5 people are Gods. Still my result is wrong...

From these statistics from? I strongly disagree with it! I ws in the middle east, and i NEVER saw a one person who claim to be gay or lesbain, some claims that they "may" do it if they do not found any women around. [I disagree strongly to that actions as well ]

Anyhow, not my intentsion to make the thread off-track...
 
  • #39
sexy is guru awards and PhDs.

Moses: you never saw one person claim to be gay? How are gay people treated in the middle east? I wouldn't claim I was gay either if I was over there and gay.
 
  • #40
tribdog said:
sexy is guru awards and PhDs.

Moses: you never saw one person claim to be gay? How are gay people treated in the middle east? I wouldn't claim I was gay either if I was over there and gay.

but i can attest to that in India too, I have never heard of a gay person in all my life, infact the first time I learned what gay meant was when i came online for the first time... but the american culture and my culture is so different, in fact i remember a incident about this...

in india, boys put their arms on each other's shoulder when walking if they are best friends, i am not sure if you can visualize this, but some of my friends came over to the US to work on a software project and when they walked from their hotel to a nearby park, they did the same thing they did back home and put their arms on each other's shoulder, but this time, every time they walked, people started yelling at them and in one case they even threw rocks at them... of course they were very surprised and they thought that americans thought that they were terrorists since they were brown and had Middle Eastern features, and they were even more surprised when I told them about the culture in the US, they just shook their heads in a "how crazy can they be" sort of way... oh well, but the effects of globablization can be well seen in Indian society nowadays, 20 years back, even 5 years back, only a minority had cell phones and students in schools were very obedient, we didn't have any sex-ed classes and that kind of stuff, again this might be surprising to you all, but some of my classmates didn't know that females had breats till they were in 10th grade... but recently, some students in Delhi, very yound, i assume, had sex and captured it in a camera phone and distributed it.. when asked why, they said that they wanted to "be popular" and "have fun." Things are going really bad and as recently as yesterday, a person at IIT university, this sort of like an Indian Harvard or Princeton, mabye even more respected than that, but a student there was arrested for creating cds with that sex video and selling it online...
 
  • #42
humanino said:
ya know dude, once you've had hundreds of them, you'll appreciate a little conversation :-p

My girlfriend is a blonde with big tits, and I'm not bored with her. It's not like it's impossible for women of this category to also be intelligent, decent conversationalists.
 
  • #43
Moonbear said:
Oh, yes, men can definitely be sexy. I think it has a lot to do with attitude and not much to do with appearance. When they've mastered the perfect gentleman routine holding open doors and always letting the lady walk ahead of them through those doors, know how to be funny and laugh at themselves, when they exude self-confidence but not cockiness, when they know they time to set aside the jokes and be serious, and when they arrive home sweaty from a hard day's work, not just some work-out at the gym, that's sexy. It doesn't hurt if he can cook (a man in the kitchen is very sexy). A little in the appearance department helps too. He shouldn't be completely wimpy and flabby, but being in reasonably good shape with just enough fat so he doesn't look starved (I find "real" looking guys far sexier than those models with six-pack abs...bleck!)

Well, i want to to ask a question, even it might sound dumb:
Do girls in the U.S REALLY take more into consideration the personality and actions of males more than their looks? I find the guys here are far more looking for good looks than personality.

I was in the middle east for a long part in my life with my parents [now i am here back again] I saw the arabs there [both sexes] looking for personality over the looks in their partners, even though males have more concetration on looks, but too far as here.
 
  • #44
fourier jr said:
how about the way a girl (woman, etc) walks?

check out this site, it's all about feminine/masculine ways to walk:
http://www.biomotionlab.ca/projects.php

these pages are especially coo; you can see how a tense/relaxed, happy/sad (etc) babe walks:
http://www.biomotionlab.ca/Demos/BMLgender.html
http://www.biomotionlab.ca/Demos/BMLwalker.html

hahaha, its amazing, but i do not think that i will EVER walk the same walk model they put for "happy" people, when i am happy i do not walk in childish way like that, hahaha :smile:
 
  • #45
loseyourname said:
My girlfriend is a blonde with big tits, and I'm not bored with her. It's not like it's impossible for women of this category to also be intelligent, decent conversationalists.
humanino was referring to the stereotype of "beauty and no brains" and that after being with someone only for their looks for long enough, you'll appreciate someone with brains. Now if they happen to have both... :approve:
 
  • #46
tribdog said:
sexy is guru awards and PhDs.

Moses: you never saw one person claim to be gay? How are gay people treated in the middle east? I wouldn't claim I was gay either if I was over there and gay.

Well, I did live after we moved from the US to there in my childhood, then i am back here (Florida) now, when i was a child and then a teen, it never cross my mind that there is people like that, as i NEVER saw an athiest person in my life, NEVER until i went to UK two years ago for the high school.

Well, honeslty speaking they DO NOT USE THE WORD GAY, they have some people who are attracted to females, but they do some staff with men since they cannot marry or find a girl to have a relatioship with [Yeah, once it happened in my school, but the students never say they are gay, they say they did it to "empty" the desires they have, since they could not find females..etc].

Another way it happenes sometimes there is when they saw a good looking boy who have female features [you know, some feature are common between men and women as attractive] and these guys sometimes have some annyoing staff from people who want to have an affair with them, but no one say that he is attracted to males, they say they attracted to females, but they do so becuase they cannot "sattisfy" their sexual need but in this way [Well, i am strongly strognly disagree with this as well, and may be i gained this attitude from the years i lived their in my grown-ups]

I do not want to change to thread here, but i do think that there is a "gay" in reality, as the term they use in the States, i go with muslims and christians in the middle east [and may be christians in the u.s?] in how they view the isssue. I hope i am not offensive to anybody...

After my two years in UK, and in the US. I saw that we have two different worlds veiwing this issue...so i can say that i "saw" gays after i reached 16 and traveled out of the middle east...

Seeing the action from the middle easterners perspective, you can see that they treat them as they have done something immoral, and highly against honor you can imagine how they treat them, still i found their argument solid, but some actions from some people there are wrong...[well, i am just transfering the picture i saw]

i hope i did not make the thread out of track :biggrin:
 
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  • #47
sex·y
adj. sex·i·er, sex·i·est
middle aged man in a speedo. :D ... :(

sexy: dark hair, and blue or green eyes. that's all that matters in the world.

...are we still talking about what we think is sexy?
 
  • #48
Mmmm, so i have dark hair, and brown eyes, so i am 50% sexy :cry:

Why cry? At least i did not fail the test :biggrin: I am going to put blue lenses to ACE it :smile:
 
  • #49
sexy means enticing,
it is all about sensuality
 
  • #50
What makes a women sexy? Weak willed and low self-esteem. Sure it's cute and all to let them think they're people by letting them on the furniture or try on hats at the mall but sooner or later they start to get wild. Before you know, it'll start wanting stuff like equal rights or more than three meals a week. Can you believe? I mean I gave my last girlfriend got a whole 4x4 closet to itself and all I heard from it was "my legs are cramped in here!" or "please don't lock me in here another night!" or "I can't breathe, there isn't enough oxygen in here!" Unfortunately, I had to do away with that one.

For all you women out there: have you accepted the fact that no man love will love you, except for me? Do you feel that without a strong man [like me] you'll just suffer through life? If so, call me. :devil:
 

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