Topher925 said:
All my friends from high school and my closest friends are all married, engaged, or living together with someone. I don't have a girlfriend, and I haven't had one for a while and people always ask me about it. "So Kris, hows the love life, meet anyone special, you should ask that girl out, etc.", it gets pretty irritating. The truth is, I don't have a girlfriend because I don't have time for one and I have simply have never met anyone that is worth the time and trouble. Why the hell does society say that I HAVE to have a girlfriend all the fricken time? I'm an engineering grad student damit, we're not suppose to have girlfriends anyway.
Let's put it this way, the people asking you these questions are insecure, and therefore feel the need to ask you a question that will make them feel better about their own, possibly pathetic, life.
You can typically see the people coming from a mile away, they live in the material/social/yuppie world when in reality they are a hollow shell that is filled with BS and drama.
e.g. I seem to run into a certain woman all the time when I am back home from my travels...*quick back story*.. I grew up with her son, he hasn't amounted to much, wasn't able to get a job when the economy was good, obviously starving right now, but he is dating a decent girl for the time being...anyway.. she feels the need to ask me who I'm dating, did I know so-and-so is engaged, did I know that so-and-so had a baby, and when she first started asking, I was a little shocked, and she almost was trying to look down on me for not having started my own nuclear family by now...
I just simply smile and nod, chuckle and say, 'nope, not seeing anybody, still single.. but I'm doing alright and I'm pretty happy with my life right now.' And just let them go feel good about themselves for a while longer before they realize they are pathetic once again and they must find someone else to pester.
The facts show that couples that marry young have a high % of divorce rate. It's so very true. Many of my friends had 'shotgun' wedding, and are now single mothers. I feel sad for them.. I've dated a single mom, she asked me to marry her.. had to shut that down.. a little too fast, we'd known each other a week.
In the end, you do what you want or whatever makes you happy. Society shouldn't determine jack-****. You live your own life. Being single and dating short-term is a lot of fun though, but right now I don't take relationships too seriously. I'm too young to be serious about that, but learning about relationships is a good time.
