Hi Jbunniii,
Thanks for all your help! I'm using Algebra (the advanced one) - as my primary text as I work through abstract algebra for the first time, but I've been reading parts of a few other algebra textbooks (Dummit+Foote, Fraleigh, Artin, and some course notes from a prof at uc berkeley). I'm studying the subject on my own, which is proving to be a bit insane, though this forum helps.
They don't prove any isomorphism theorems until 300 pages after this problem (in a chapter called "The Structure of Groups"). Due to your hint about ST, I was reminded that I had seen reference to such a set in D+F, which turned out to be right next to the section on the isomorphism theorems. In MacLane and Birkhoff, the definitions of kernel, image, and normal subgroup don't even appear until the next section!
The only thing I can think of is that they expect you to contemplate the nature of |S∨T| until you get the idea to consider |ST:S|?
Thanks again for your help, I feel I'd have been stuck on this forever.