What Will Happen If I Live a Lonely Life?

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The discussion revolves around the feelings of loneliness and the desire for friendship, particularly among individuals interested in physics and science. The original poster expresses a lack of friends throughout their life, feeling disconnected from peers who prioritize social activities over academic interests. They reflect on their happiness with family and intellectual pursuits but question whether true friendship is essential for a fulfilling life. Responses encourage the poster to seek out like-minded individuals, suggesting that clubs or social groups related to their interests could help foster connections. The conversation touches on the challenges faced by those with Asperger's syndrome in social interactions, emphasizing the importance of finding common ground with others. Participants share personal experiences of loneliness and the value of friendship, urging the poster not to give up on building relationships, even in an online context. The overall sentiment highlights the significance of companionship and the potential for personal growth through social engagement.
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I never had friend in my life ! I need physics friends and cool science friends.

Hi, this is me kiran

Do you want to know how I look like ?
here is my vdo.

NASA selected my vdo

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Does all people have a good friend ?

Guys, How it feels like Having a friend ?
is it really mandatory to have a friend in life.
I never Had a friend in my life (now I am 20)..
Does friends r really Useful ?
What is friendship ?
(I feel like I don't belong to this world .. let NASA trow me into another planet may be some aliens might make friendship with me >>?? )

Well I feel lonely life is cool. it gives me more confidence.


Through out my life I never had a friend. I just used to consider my friend as my pet dogs but now they are gone. I am Happy with my family. but still I feel I am missing something in life I don't even know How true friendship feels like ?
Well, I always been friendly to every one. still situations around me making me lonely.
I don't know why... now I feel loneliness is really good. It gives me lots of Ideas to me related to my subject like intellectual mind.

Am I really missing something ?

Now I feel like books, Physics,nature,math and whole science as my true friend !

Well, am I feeling correctly ?

Does true friends really exist for every one ?
The only things that makes me lonely
- place where I live
- having tooo much of good habits
- following morels and what our Great personalities say!
- Not lying
- A unique Mind !
- Not watching sports / Movies (except sci-fi)
- Being Nerd
- Most of my classmates are Jealous of me. Always try to give trouble to me ( but it's fun)
and soo many things
- Always thinking related to science stuff

What will happen to me If I live lonely life ?

Does it effects to my mind ?

what ever you might say, I feel good being lonely ... but "I want to drink life to lees"
I really have lot of desire to gain knowledge ... to understand nature !

Please tell me who would be my friend?
 
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The only things that makes me lonely
- place where I live
- having tooo much of good habits
- following morels and what our Great personalities say!
- Not lying
- A unique Mind !
- Not watching sports / Movies (except sci-fi)
- Being Nerd
- Most of my classmates are Jealous of me. Always try to give trouble to me ( but it's fun)
and soo many things
- Always thinking related to science stuff

You are too good to have friends .. :biggrin:
 
rootX said:
You are too good to have friends .. :biggrin:
yeah you might be correct rootX,

may be I need to make friendship with physics MONKS ! LOL
 
I think you are too good to have friends, lol. I think all your qualities qualify for a good friend. You will be able to find many cool people here, like I have :biggrin:
 


SBC said:
but still I feel I am missing something in life I don't even know How true friendship feels like ?

...

Am I really missing something ?

Yes, you are. Go make a friend. Join a club or something. No matter how strange you are, I guarantee there's a bunch of other people just as strange who are interested in the same thing you are. :biggrin:
 
SBC said:
yeah you might be correct rootX,

may be I need to make friendship with physics MONKS ! LOL

... or change yourself rather than finding people who are as superior as you (which you believe you are either consciously or unconsciously).
 
mcknia07 said:
I think you are too good to have friends, lol. I think all your qualities qualify for a good friend. You will be able to find many cool people here, like I have :biggrin:

If it's true. than who ?
 
rootX said:
... or change yourself rather than finding people who are as superior as you (which you believe you are either consciously or unconsciously).
I don't like people who use bad words in daily life.
I avoid all. most of the people don't even know How to speak to a person..

so, how can I change my self ?
 


dotman said:
Yes, you are. Go make a friend. Join a club or something. No matter how strange you are, I guarantee there's a bunch of other people just as strange who are interested in the same thing you are. :biggrin:
soon I am going to study in UK.
the place where I am living,People don't give any value for science.
 
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SBC said:
soon I am going to study in UK.
the place where I am living,People don't give any value for science.

I'm sure they do; you just need to find the right people. If you speak to your average person on the street here in the UK, they will not care about science!
 
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cristo said:
I'm sure they do; you just need to find the right people. If you speak to your average person on the street here in the UK, they will not care about science!
OK, but I speak to all.
 
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you are lucky :)


and don't think you are alone we all are with you :)

cheers!
 
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obing said:
you are lucky :)


and don't think you are alone we all are with you :)

cheers!
Really !
but I don't know any thing about you. who are you ?
you can see me in my vdo.
you know and everyone knows who am I ?? and how I look like.
but I don't know anyone over here.
 
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see my profile

am currently doing my engineering in computer science :)
 
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What country are you from? There is a website called meetup.com where they you can search for groups of people in your area with similar interests. If you live in a culture that is very anti-intellectual, I could see why it would be very difficult to find people to relate to.
 
  • #16
Having a best friend is the best thing in the world. You share so many interest and you can share anything with your brah. I wouldn't trade my friends for the world. They are actually all amazing. (the good ones anyway) If you really want to have friends, just be yourself and itneract more.

If that person doesn't care for you or your friend, screw him or her. Move on and converse with the next person. Chances are, you'll never see that person again when you're out on the streets. =) Good luck
 
  • #17
kramer733 said:
Having a best friend is the best thing in the world. You share so many interest and you can share anything with your brah. I wouldn't trade my friends for the world. They are actually all amazing. (the good ones anyway) If you really want to have friends, just be yourself and itneract more.

If that person doesn't care for you or your friend, screw him or her. Move on and converse with the next person. Chances are, you'll never see that person again when you're out on the streets. =) Good luck

thank you for your reply ..
My interests are unique.
bad thing is I always speak related to science and Life.
I talk like Philosopher.
and I don't like to be a layman.
other reason is people use UGLY language.I never used UGLY language. so, I don't mess with any one.

this is it. I give up !
I don't need any friends.
I lost something called hope.
I did not ask online trade friendship.
I don't trust online friendship.

.. I am Lonely.
I am beginning to love it.

I never attended parties ... never Pub or club and none.
You are lucky.
 
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Galteeth said:
What country are you from? There is a website called meetup.com where they you can search for groups of people in your area with similar interests. If you live in a culture that is very anti-intellectual, I could see why it would be very difficult to find people to relate to.
I am from India.
 
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SBC said:
My interests are unique.

No they aren't.


SBC said:
bad thing is I always speak related to science and Life.

You aren't right now. You may argue that you're talking about 'life', but if this is talking about 'life', well, then, this is the same stuff everyone else talks about. 'Life' is pretty much everything, now isn't it?

SBC said:
I talk like Philosopher.
and I don't like to be a layman.
other reason is people use UGLY language.I never used UGLY language. so, I don't mess with any one.

1 - You aren't talking like a philosopher here.

2 - Do you think that you are better than everyone else? That you look down upon what you call a layman? Who are you to say what is and isn't ugly language?

SBC said:
this is it. I give up !
I don't need any friends.
I lost something called hope.
I did not ask online trade friendship.
I don't trust online friendship.

Quitters never lose. Problem is, they never win either.

SBC said:
.. I am Lonely.
I am beginning to love it.

Sure you are. You haven't even tried to make a friend! All of that crap above are just excuses so you don't have to try. Get over yourself and give it a shot.
 
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dotman said:
No they aren't.

You aren't right now. You may argue that you're talking about 'life', but if this is talking about 'life', well, then, this is the same stuff everyone else talks about. 'Life' is pretty much everything, now isn't it?
1 - You aren't talking like a philosopher here.

2 - Do you think that you are better than everyone else? That you look down upon what you call a layman? Who are you to say what is and isn't ugly language?
Quitters never lose. Problem is, they never win either.
Sure you are. You haven't even tried to make a friend! All of that crap above are just excuses so you don't have to try. Get over yourself and give it a shot.
You don't know any thing about me, how can you say like that ?

any way.. Who follows morels like me ?

Man you really don't know me and what stuff I have done !

You can't come to your own conclusions.

Never underestimate a person.

I always tried to find one.I never gave up.but now I give up.

my life goon through difficult parts of life.

Everyone of us experiences different situations in life, depending on our surroundings and place we grow up.

OK forget it any way.
even if I get friends here I don't trust anyone cos it's online.
truth is nothing in online.
 
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You are assuming that..my statements are Crap ?

Ok than, if you don't like to reply,don't reply.
and don't say any thing about my statements.
I am not liar. I am truthful.

You don't even have a clue about my life, and whatever happened to me in the past.

just forget it man.
and forgive me for wasting your time.
 
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1 - You aren't talking like a philosopher here.
Do I need to talk like philosopher ?
Here?
Why ?
2 - Do you think that you are better than everyone else?
When did I say that, I am better than you all or people?
when ?
I always consider my self as a student.
I am not proud.
I will be always a student.
Nature is my teacher and Nature is expert not me.
3-That you look down upon what you call a layman?
I call layman, to those who don't care about science stuff in our daily life.
In my college. students, almost all students are diverted to
-girls
-love
-movies
-sports

NO one, not even one like me ever existed.
I asked every one, I talked to every person.but still No one cares.

in my college, we had freshers party ...
than all were enjoying party except me. cos I was Anchoring ... I did not like those movie songs and than suddenly audio speaker (big speaker fallen down from it's stand)
cos of resonance. than I said it to every one, like a true physics Nerd that, resonance is responsible for it's fall. than no one cared me.
no one cared what I said.
No one replied to me.
5-Who are you to say what is and isn't ugly language?
I am a MOREL follower.
I am NOBLE person.
I am Honest.
I am truthful and I say bad words or ugly words are bad.

Now you tell me,Who decides this word is bad word ..

F++++K
SON of ++++++

Now you tell me, Every day i face this .. people use this things to me everyday.
I never used any bad word my in my life.

They spake all negative things.

ask your self ,"have I used these words ?"

I say, I never used any bad words.

I hope you understood me.
I really take it seriously.
please try to understand me.
Sure you are. You haven't even tried to make a friend! All of that crap above are just excuses so you don't have to try. Get over yourself and give it a shot.

I haven't tried ?
LOL, who told you ?

All of that crap above are just excuses so you don't have to try.

Who said that these are excuses ?
 
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Dear SBC, I find really hard to believe that you are the only nerd of your college. And that no student take physics/math as a serious thing in life. Maybe you are too enclosed in not seeing them. Keep hope.
When you're alone with say a guy... who's waiting for a room to open in your university. Just start talking about physics to him. You might start a friendship. Then next time you see him, continue to talk about physics. You could eventually get his phone number or so, so that you can go drink in a bar and talking physics. ok?
 
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fluidistic said:
Dear SBC, I find really hard to believe that you are the only nerd of your college. And that no student take physics/math as a serious thing in life. Maybe you are too enclosed in not seeing them. Keep hope.
When you're alone with say a guy... who's waiting for a room to open in your university. Just start talking about physics to him. You might start a friendship. Then next time you see him, continue to talk about physics. You could eventually get his phone number or so, so that you can go drink in a bar and talking physics. ok?
dude or sir,
you did not understand main thing here.
In my country they don't give much importance to science.
they give importance to money,enjoyments.
it's not like UK or USA universities who like their fields.

it's really only few out of all my country population would be NERD in Physics.

I love biology,chemistry and math and all science filed but no one loves it.
they just take subjects as their future jobs.
 
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fluidistic said:
Dear SBC, I find really hard to believe that you are the only nerd of your college. And that no student take physics/math as a serious thing in life. Maybe you are too enclosed in not seeing them. Keep hope.
When you're alone with say a guy... who's waiting for a room to open in your university. Just start talking about physics to him. You might start a friendship. Then next time you see him, continue to talk about physics. You could eventually get his phone number or so, so that you can go drink in a bar and talking physics. ok?
DO you know, if I talk physics ?

they think that I am MAD person.

it is better to know some country facts. something like this might surprise you.

they think I am MAD.
 
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SBC said:
DO you know, if I talk physics ?

they think that I am MAD person.

it is better to know some country facts. something like this might surprise you.

they think I am MAD.
The average person in the world probably is not fluent in mathematics and science, and certainly not the details of modern physics. This was the case when I attended high school and university. Only 20-30 students of more than 700 who graduated in my class in high school took the calculus and honors physics and chemistry. That's about 4% or less. Of those, some probably went onto advanced degrees.

I attended a university of about 36,000 students when I started and over 40,000 students when I attended graduate school. The physics department had about 30-40 senior level students, or less than 0.1% of the student population. My nuclear engineering undergraduate class had about 20 students, who completed the program, or less than 0.06% of the student population. Most of us were friends in the department, but each had several friends outside the department. Within the department we have a lot of mutual interest in the science and engineering of nuclear technology.
 
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Astronuc said:
The average person in the world probably is not fluent in mathematics and science, and certainly not the details of modern physics. This was the case when I attended high school and university. Only 20-30 students of more than 700 who graduated in my class in high school took the calculus and honors physics and chemistry. That's about 4% or less. Of those, some probably went onto advanced degrees.

I attended a university of about 36,000 students when I started and over 40,000 students when I attended graduate school. The physics department had about 30-40 senior level students, or less than 0.1% of the student population. My nuclear engineering undergraduate class had about 20 students, who completed the program, or less than 0.06% of the student population. Most of us were friends in the department, but each had several friends outside the department. Within the department we have a lot of mutual interest in the science and engineering of nuclear technology.
but they never like to talk related to a subject.
all they want is movies.
every country is different and it's different with it's way of educating people.
but in my country...
all the schools and college people try to complete syllabus fast and after that teachers and students .. GUESS the question papers and they try to memorize all stuff in note book.

but I never did that...
i always follow textbook and understand it till the end.
I watch science shows , all my physics classmates watch MOVIES,games and sports.

and me sitting all alone and doing math and science stuff.

i am also suffering from asparagus syndrome.
I don't have good relationships with people.

but, still I speak to all...
 
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SBC said:
i am also suffering from asparagus syndrome.
I'm afraid to ask - but what is 'asparagus syndrome'?
 
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SBC said:
You don't know any thing about me, how can you say like that ?

any way.. Who follows morels like me ?

Man you really don't know me and what stuff I have done !

You can't come to your own conclusions.

Never underestimate a person.

I always tried to find one.I never gave up.but now I give up.

my life goon through difficult parts of life.

Everyone of us experiences different situations in life, depending on our surroundings and place we grow up.

OK forget it any way.
even if I get friends here I don't trust anyone cos it's online.
truth is nothing in online.
Don't give up on finding your true friend. Trust me it's really worth it in the end. The lonliness disapears, you never feel depressed, you're constantly challenged by them. (they push you to become better every time) and best of all, you get to hang out with your buddy =).

I'd trade all my possessions i have to have one more day with my best friend. =D Don't give up ok!? If you give up, you're mentally weak. I don't care what marks you get but the people who have mental strength would never give up on anything. Athletes/professors/archaeologists/the young and coming pick up artists who strive to get laid/the real martial artists who seek zen and true inner peace/ everybody.

WALK LIKE THE SPIRIT OF THE SAMURAI AND YOU'LL NEVER LOOK BACK IN LIFE. Bushido is my way of life. I strongly advise you to take up a hobby and forget about your science roots when you're there. Treat them with respect.
 
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Astronuc said:
I'm afraid to ask - but what is 'asparagus syndrome'?

Perhaps he means Asperger's syndrome.
 
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lisab said:
Perhaps he means Asperger's syndrome.
Ahhh.
 
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Astronuc said:
I'm afraid to ask - but what is 'asparagus syndrome'?

Asperger's syndrome.
 
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SBC said:
Asperger's syndrome.

Well that does make it tougher for you, since reading social signals is more difficult for those with Asperger's. But perhaps there are ways to learn these skills. Does your school have a counselor who could give guidance on where to find help?

Also I wouldn't totally discount online friends.
 
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I hear the term aspergers and autism come up a lot on these forums... is it something that a lot of people with interest in science has?
 
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Sorry! said:
I hear the term aspergers and autism come up a lot on these forums... is it something that a lot of people with interest in science has?

science does not require emotions?
 
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I was in the same situation as the OP for a loooong time (and to some extent, to this day). Trust me, you don't know what you're missing. I'm still nearly friendless and very lonely, but having even one close friend is a huge improvement over my previous life of walking around the school at recess and watching other people having a good time.

Now, I don't know what it's like to go to parties or watch movies with friends on a regular basis, because I've gone to a total of 2 parties and 0 movies (with friends, that is). Once I tried being less shy, however, I realized that these social activities are probably much more fun than I thought. Give them a try!

BTW, why don't you like movies? Is it because nobody has invited you to watch one with them? If so, watch some yourself. You might find that many movies are much more interesting than science articles.
 
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lisab said:
Well that does make it tougher for you, since reading social signals is more difficult for those with Asperger's. But perhaps there are ways to learn these skills. Does your school have a counselor who could give guidance on where to find help?

Also I wouldn't totally discount online friends.

Almost all my Indian schools don't have any counselors ... School is business for the owners of the school .. they will never care.

if you want proof ask any Indian student.
 
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SBC said:
Almost all my Indian schools don't have any counselors ... School is business for the owners of the school .. they will never care.

if you want proof ask any Indian student.

Oh I believe you.

Ideasrule has a good suggestion, to reach out to people rather than expect them to come to you. Perhaps you can take a little time to watch a movie with them? You may not really enjoy it, but it would give something other than physics to discus with your classmates. This could be a step towards making a friend.
 
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ideasrule said:
I was in the same situation as the OP for a loooong time (and to some extent, to this day). Trust me, you don't know what you're missing. I'm still nearly friendless and very lonely, but having even one close friend is a huge improvement over my previous life of walking around the school at recess and watching other people having a good time.

Now, I don't know what it's like to go to parties or watch movies with friends on a regular basis, because I've gone to a total of 2 parties and 0 movies (with friends, that is). Once I tried being less shy, however, I realized that these social activities are probably much more fun than I thought. Give them a try!

BTW, why don't you like movies? Is it because nobody has invited you to watch one with them? If so, watch some yourself. You might find that many movies are much more interesting than science articles.


Science articles are more interesting than Movies...
spiderman I watched .. it's cool but I love science articles than that..
 
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lisab said:
Oh I believe you.

Ideasrule has a good suggestion, to reach out to people rather than expect them to come to you. Perhaps you can take a little time to watch a movie with them? You may not really enjoy it, but it would give something other than physics to discus with your classmates. This could be a step towards making a friend.

I have decided and dedicated my life for physics and math .

I will be celibate, if I will not get suitable girls (who I like)

I will be for physics and physics is m only friends

nature and science are my best freinds.

watching movies ??

I always think it would wast my time...
I think that " why should I think about movie stuff?"
 
  • #41
I spent quite some time without an friend but books. I also had crazy party times in my life. I value more the time I spent learning. At that time I did not question, it was a choice. Why did you start this thread SBC ?
 
  • #42
rootX said:
science does not require emotions?

I think the idea is that careers in technical, mathematical, and scientific disciplines are well-suited for people who focus obsessively on the complexities and minutiae of an area of interest. That seems to be a common trait in people with Asperger's. There also seems to be a preference for jobs that don't require a lot of social interaction. A programmer can often work reclusively, but social interaction would be unavoidable in a job like sales or PR.

There's a good (but a little dated) article from Wired Magazine that addresses this here:
http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/9.12/aspergers_pr.html

except:
It's a familiar joke in the industry that many of the hardcore programmers in IT strongholds like Intel, Adobe, and Silicon Graphics - coming to work early, leaving late, sucking down Big Gulps in their cubicles while they code for hours - are residing somewhere in Asperger's domain. Kathryn Stewart, director of the Orion Academy, a high school for high-functioning kids in Moraga, California, calls Asperger's syndrome "the engineers' disorder." Bill Gates is regularly diagnosed in the press: His single-minded focus on technical minutiae, rocking motions, and flat tone of voice are all suggestive of an adult with some trace of the disorder. Dov's father told me that his friends in the Valley say many of their coworkers "could be diagnosed with ODD - they're odd." In Microserfs, novelist Douglas Coupland observes, "I think all tech people are slightly autistic."

Though no one has tried to convince the Valley's best and brightest to sign up for batteries of tests, the culture of the area has subtly evolved to meet the social needs of adults in high-functioning regions of the spectrum. In the geek warrens of engineering and R&D, social graces are beside the point. You can be as off-the-wall as you want to be, but if your code is bulletproof, no one's going to point out that you've been wearing the same shirt for two weeks. Autistic people have a hard time multitasking - particularly when one of the channels is face-to-face communication. Replacing the hubbub of the traditional office with a screen and an email address inserts a controllable interface between a programmer and the chaos of everyday life. Flattened workplace hierarchies are more comfortable for those who find it hard to read social cues. A WYSIWYG world, where respect and rewards are based strictly on merit, is an Asperger's dream.

Obviously, this kind of accommodation is not unique to the Valley. The halls of academe have long been a forgiving environment for absentminded professors. Temple Grandin - the inspiring and accomplished autistic woman profiled in Oliver Sacks' An Anthropologist on Mars - calls NASA the largest sheltered workshop in the world.

A recurring theme in case histories of autism, going all the way back to Kanner's and Asperger's original monographs, is an attraction to highly organized systems and complex machines. There's even a perennial cast of hackers: early adopters with a subversive streak. In 1944, Asperger wrote of a boy "chemist [who] uses all his money for experiments which often horrify his family and even steals to fund them." Another boy proved a mathematical error in Isaac Newton's calculations while he was still a freshman in college. A third escaped neighborhood bullies by taking lessons from an old watchmaker. And a fourth, wrote Asperger, "came to be preoccupied with fantastic inventions, such as spaceships and the like." Here he added, "one observes how remote from reality autistic interests really are" - a comment he qualified years later, when spaceships were no longer remote or fantastic, by joking that the inventors of spaceships might themselves be autistic.
 
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humanino said:
I spent quite some time without an friend but books. I also had crazy party times in my life. I value more the time I spent learning. At that time I did not question, it was a choice. Why did you start this thread SBC ?
i thought I would get friends ..

but it's online ..
and NO nerd girl LOL
 
  • #44
SBC said:
i thought I would get friends ..

but it's online ..
and NO nerd girl LOL

My girl is getting her PhD in same field I got one a few years ago. Although it's hard to keep work outside home, at least we understand what each other do.

If you want friends, you must be open to the possibility that just as you can bring them, they can bring you to things you do not understand yet. Everybody's experience is invaluable.
 
  • #45
Math Is Hard said:
It's a familiar joke in the industry that many of the hardcore programmers in IT strongholds like Intel, Adobe, and Silicon Graphics - coming to work early, leaving late, sucking down Big Gulps in their cubicles while they code for hours - are residing somewhere in Asperger's domain. Kathryn Stewart, director of the Orion Academy, a high school for high-functioning kids in Moraga, California, calls Asperger's syndrome "the engineers' disorder." Bill Gates is regularly diagnosed in the press: His single-minded focus on technical minutiae, rocking motions, and flat tone of voice are all suggestive of an adult with some trace of the disorder. Dov's father told me that his friends in the Valley say many of their coworkers "could be diagnosed with ODD - they're odd." In Microserfs, novelist Douglas Coupland observes, "I think all tech people are slightly autistic."

Though no one has tried to convince the Valley's best and brightest to sign up for batteries of tests, the culture of the area has subtly evolved to meet the social needs of adults in high-functioning regions of the spectrum. In the geek warrens of engineering and R&D, social graces are beside the point. You can be as off-the-wall as you want to be, but if your code is bulletproof, no one's going to point out that you've been wearing the same shirt for two weeks. Autistic people have a hard time multitasking - particularly when one of the channels is face-to-face communication. Replacing the hubbub of the traditional office with a screen and an email address inserts a controllable interface between a programmer and the chaos of everyday life. Flattened workplace hierarchies are more comfortable for those who find it hard to read social cues. A WYSIWYG world, where respect and rewards are based strictly on merit, is an Asperger's dream.

That is so me who is working on Christmas too :blushing:

But, I have been forcing myself into many uncomfortable situations (tasks that involve getting resources from difficult people etc) and along with working for a big company.

My problem is that I can read the emotions very well but not instantly.

Other day I was telling a classmate who wants to go home for Christmas as early as possible so that he can spend time with his family that he is so lucky to have a family that he loves.
 
  • #46
Math Is Hard said:
I think the idea is that careers in technical, mathematical, and scientific disciplines are well-suited for people who focus obsessively on the complexities and minutiae of an area of interest. That seems to be a common trait in people with Asperger's. There also seems to be a preference for jobs that don't require a lot of social interaction. A programmer can often work reclusively, but social interaction would be unavoidable in a job like sales or PR.

There's a good (but a little dated) article from Wired Magazine that addresses this here:
http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/9.12/aspergers_pr.html

except:

Well, that article certain shed some light on the topic :smile: It was pretty enlightening too, thanks MIH
 
  • #47
Sorry! said:
I hear the term aspergers and autism come up a lot on these forums... is it something that a lot of people with interest in science has?
It appears that some very successful mathematicians and scientists probably has Asperger's syndrome or were high functioning autisitic. Paul Dirac very likely had Aspergers. The thought is that Asperger's affects the way the brain processes and systematizes information, which is very helpful in mathematics and analysis or problem solving. Such ability apparently comes at the price of social awareness and the ability to enjoy trivialities like movies.

I've been diagnosed as having Aspergers, but over the years I've compensated. As a child, I had friends, but I also felt comfortable alone. In high school, I spent more time in libraries reading books on matters in physics. My interests in physics were not shared with any friends. On the other hand, I enjoyed play sports like football with friends.

I enjoy the company of friends, but I also enjoy being alone, and in fact I often prefer to be alone.
 
  • #48
Astronuc said:
It appears that some very successful mathematicians and scientists probably has Asperger's syndrome or were high functioning autisitic. Paul Dirac very likely had Aspergers. The thought is that Asperger's affects the way the brain processes and systematizes information, which is very helpful in mathematics and analysis or problem solving. Such ability apparently comes at the price of social awareness and the ability to enjoy trivialities like movies.

I've been diagnosed as having Aspergers, but over the years I've compensated. As a child, I had friends, but I also felt comfortable alone. In high school, I spent more time in libraries reading books on matters in physics. My interests in physics were not shared with any friends. On the other hand, I enjoyed play sports like football with friends.

I enjoy the company of friends, but I also enjoy being alone, and in fact I often prefer to be alone.
WOW you are just like me..
How did you get friends !??
 
  • #49
Polyname said:
What you guys say makes me miss a friend of mine. I hope to see him somewhere tomorrow
Good luck !
 
  • #50
BTW, why don't you like movies? Is it because nobody has invited you to watch one with them? If so, watch some yourself. You might find that many movies are much more interesting than science articles.[/QUOTE]




one movie i recommend is ultimate speed by william bertozzi :)

give it a try dude it speak for itself ha ha :wink:
 

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