Studying Can You Balance Mechanical Engineering Studies with a Social Life?

[skizzle]

I'm thinking about studying for mechanical engineering, but I'm slightly discouraged by the amount of work people say they have to put forth. but is there really that little amount of free time to hang out with friends and do things you enjoy? i mean, will i still have to for my gf and what not? I'm not really motivated in school but i have a general interest in engineering but i don't know if i can do it if it's going to be that much work.

 

[chroot]

It depends on your work ethic, study habits, and your mastery of the material you were supposed to learn in high school. If you have good study habits, good discipline, and paid attention in high school, you'll still be able to have a full social and romantic life. You can do it!

- Warren

 

[G01]

You are still able to have a social life and a girlfriend while studying science or engineering.

But you won't be able to spend every night partying either. It is a lot of work, but it's not impossible and people complete engineering degrees every year and love their choice of career. Good Luck!

 

[Cyrus]

Im not going to lie, your soical life WILL suffer.

 

[Ki Man]

Although, it will not be completely nonexistant (although it probably may seem like it at times)

 

[ytoruno]

its more managable than one might think, assuming your girlfriend doesn't give you too much drama.

 

[Serbian.matematika]

Im not going to lie, your soical life WILL suffer.

very true!

 

[nicksauce]

The engineers at my school are actually notorious party animals... us physicists on the other hand...

 

[Pyrrhus]

You are going to have to party less, but you can still party.

 

[berkeman]

I'm not really motivated in school but i have a general interest in engineering but i don't know if i can do it if it's going to be that much work.

To be honest, engineering does not sound like a good match for you. Sorry.

 

[Ronnin]

You know there will be a time in your life when hanging out with your friends and drinking beer won't be nearly as important to you. A little sacrifice today goes a long way in getting you what you really want tomorrow.

 

[chaoseverlasting]

You know there will be a time in your life when hanging out with your friends and drinking beer won't be nearly as important to you. A little sacrifice today goes a long way in getting you what you really want tomorrow.

What DO you really want tomorrow (to OP and Ronnin)?

 

[Feldoh]

Im not going to lie, your soical life WILL suffer.

Especially if the majority of your school is male

 

[Cyrus]

Especially if the majority of your school is male

Less distraction to study harder!

 

[Cyrus]

What DO you really want tomorrow (to OP and Ronnin)?

A job that pays me lots and lots of money to do cool state of the art stuff.

 

[G01]

Skizzle, I think you should ask yourself the following question:

Do I like and enjoy engineering enough to give up part of my social life to study it?

If you really enjoy engineering, then you probably wouldn't mind giving up some of the social scene in order to study it effectively.

If you can't see engineering being interesting enough to sacrifice some of the nights at the bar, then engineering is not for you.

Find the subject for which you can answer "yes" to the above question, and that is most likely the major of choice for you.

 

[Serbian.matematika]

what would you do if you were in my situation;
gender: female
program: EE
cultural background: very strict parents
social life: NON existent (no boyfriend)
but= that's OK, it's temporary, when I get my degree probably some guy will find me?

 

[berkeman]

what would you do if you were in my situation;
gender: female
program: EE
cultural background: very strict parents
social life: NON existent (no boyfriend)
but= that's OK, it's temporary, when I get my degree probably some guy will find me?

You're doing fine. Keep working hard now, and you will enjoy the rewards in due course.

 

[Cyrus]

what would you do if you were in my situation;
gender: female
program: EE
cultural background: very strict parents
social life: NON existent (no boyfriend)
but= that's OK, it's temporary, when I get my degree probably some guy will find me?

gender: does not matter
program: does not matter
cultural background: does not matter
social life: does not matter

Also, a boyfriend is not a social life. Its ok if you don't have a social life, however, it is important you have good social skills.

 

[mgiddy911]

Also, a boyfriend is not a social life. Its ok if you don't have a social life, however, it is important you have good social skills.

That's an important statement. I remember a thread a while back about how to study for (my opinion here) a ridiculous amount of hours per day (end my opinion)

Many responses were that the OP may be missing out on key aspects of his undergrad life by trying to do literally nothing but study and sustain his health with a bit of sleep and food.

What I mean is that going out to drink or party is not crucial, but having no social life (possibly meaning no social skills) can be detrimental to your life after college

 

[berkeman]

I guess I should mention another option -- the one that I found to work for me. I had a girlfriend or two for much of college, but I found that I really couldn't take the time to socialize and party during the quarters. I found that I did best by focusing almost 100% on studies during the time that school was running, and then enjoying myself and partying during school breaks (like Spring break, or Christmas break).

I was pretty well adjusted socially before college, and during college breaks and then after graduation. But during school time, no partying. It wasn't as much fun probably as mixing in some partying during school time, but for me, the extra level of acheivement in school (and hence after graduation) was worth the extra effort and willpower.

 

[Hydrargyrum]

I guess engineering will be perfect for me then since I don't have a life now and probably never will

 

[Cyrus]

I guess engineering will be perfect for me then since I don't have a life now and probably never will

With your attitude, I wouldn't count on it.

 

[Hydrargyrum]

 

[z-component]

No need to pity yourself. If you really want the degree, you'll work for it.

 

[Cyrus]

What, get real.

 

[Hydrargyrum]

Sarcasm

 

[proton]

I guess engineering will be perfect for me then since I don't have a life now and probably never will

haha, sounds just like me. except i probably will have a life...not til after college though

i assume its also foolish to sacrifice a social life in order to pursue a double major in math and physics?

 

[dontdisturbmycircles]

My experience is that you can make it in Engineering with quite little effort (assuming you are somewhat bright) but the difference between a 3.0 and a 3.6+ is about 20 hours per week. I personally think its despicable to graduate with a B- average but that's just me.

On the other hand, graduating with a 4.0 with no knowledge of politics, philosophy, or the world in general, is even worse.

 

[mgiddy911]

Proton,
I would say yes definitely foolish to sacrifice social life to double major in math/physics
Doubling in math physics will give you lots of skills in math that others may mis out on, but on a grad school app. it won't add too much because the subjects are similar. Where as a double in Physics and Philosophy or Physics and English would look very impressive.
so my opinion is do not throw away your social life to do that double major, just try and squeeze some extra math classes in here and there, maybe a math minor? ps. there's a good band out of Waco,Texas called Math Minor.I also highly agree with dontdisturbmycircles in that you should branch out while in college and take classes form other subjects. Take ( if you are me, then struggle with) a few literature classes and learn a foreign language

 

[berkeman]

I also highly agree with dontdisturbmycircles in that you should branch out while in college and take classes form other subjects. Take ( if you are me, then struggle with) a few literature classes and learn a foreign language

I don't know about this. As ddmc said, if you're bright, that helps a lot in the amount of time you put in, and the amount of time you have left for broadening yourself. I'm reasonably bright, but for me, I had to focus pretty hard on just my technical subjects, and study about 60 hours per week outside of class to stay at the 3.9+ GPA level in those technical subjects. Taking extra literature and philosophy classes was not part of the plan for me, and would have detracted from what I have achieved so far in school and later in my career.

IMO, if you are serious about doing the best you can in your technical education, you should focus on your technical classes, and leave the philosopy stuff for later, when you have leisure time and want to learn other things. It's a lot easier to learn philosophy or read literature for pleasure on your own, than it is to learn the practical applications of Maxwell's equations on your own...

 

[cristo]

I also highly agree with dontdisturbmycircles in that you should branch out while in college and take classes form other subjects. Take ( if you are me, then struggle with) a few literature classes and learn a foreign language

I don't agree with this either. Admittedly, foreign languages are useful and I wish that I'd kept studying them, but isn't high school the time to be broadening one's horizons. After all, university is where one specialises in a subject and, especially if you want to continue in a field similar to that in which you get your degree from, taking time to study, say, philosophy is a waste of time that could be better spent on other maths courses, for example.

 

[Cyrus]

What US college allows one to get a degree without any humanities?

If this is true, this is a shame.

 

[TVP45]

I'm thinking about studying for mechanical engineering, but I'm slightly discouraged by the amount of work people say they have to put forth. but is there really that little amount of free time to hang out with friends and do things you enjoy? i mean, will i still have to for my gf and what not? I'm not really motivated in school but i have a general interest in engineering but i don't know if i can do it if it's going to be that much work.

See if you can find an ME to shadow for a coupla days or even just to interview. Make sure you're OK with some of the drudgery that comes with engineering. There are exciting projects and interesting worksites but sometimes it's 18 straight days translating bills of material from Chinese to English, and sometimes it's a spring factory in Minot, North Dakota in January. You should make sure you like it enough to be motivated by the work.

 

[berkeman]

What US college allows one to get a degree without any humanities?

If this is true, this is a shame.

I went through the Univ. of CA for undergrad. Yes there was some requirement, and I did the bare minimum outside of tech.

 

[mgiddy911]

In many high schools ( my experience is with private schools) students have little choice in classes as far as humanities go. You take a required curriculum with some choice in electives. Colleges just offer such a vast variety. For instance at my school offers a lit class solely focused on Chaucer, a philosophy class in Asian Philosophy, Hist class in The Modern Middle East or The Rise and Fall of the Soviet Union
These are classes that I doubt many high school students are able to take.

 

[mgiddy911]

If you are truly dedicated to your degree and can get through college doing nothing but math and physics and possibly a comp programming class then more power to you I guess

Me personally, I would go insane and find my self burnt out. Taking humanities classes offers a nice break. Not to mention they help you hone skills like writing. Unless your school offers a class in writing for their science majors then paper writing may be a skill you come out severely lacking in after graduating having done nothing but math and physics. And no C++ code doesn't count...

 

[Cyrus]

I went through the Univ. of CA for undergrad. Yes there was some requirement, and I did the bare minimum outside of tech.

One must have a humanities background: its part of getting a well rounded education.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0XgmrMZ0h54&feature=related

Fast forward to 2:53

 

[berkeman]

Unless your school offers a class in writing for their science majors then paper writing may be a skill you come out severely lacking in after graduating having done nothing but math and physics. And no C++ code doesn't count...

That's a very good point. However, in my case, I developed very good writing (and speaking) skills in high school. I absolutely agree that good writing and communication skills are essential in the working world of high tech.

 

[Astronuc]

Being a top engineer requires hard work - period.

One's social life doesn't necessarily have to suffer. During my undergrad program, most of my colleagues found time to go out and drink, go to games, movies, dances, or whatever they fancied. We also put together sports teams - baseball, football (both American and soccer), basketball.

On Fridays, a group from my department would go to a local burger bar, which had a good selection of imported beers, and we'd down a number of beers with dinner. Saturday nights were usually heavy party nights.

I met my wife during the junior year of our undergrad programs, and we used to visit each other on weekends. We got married between graduate and undergrad programs.


I think other programs in history, political science (particularly foreign affairs and international relations), and one or two foreign languages in university are very worthwhile.

 

[rootX]

I guess it also depends how you see the world.
To me, humanity people suck (Work can be more pleasing than socializing - but those people know nothing more than socializing lol)!
I am in EE, and I work everyday (including Christmas and Summer breaks) and I am doing pretty good. On other side, I never talk to anyone who is not in my class (I only talk about work :D), and never go to parties ... and neither want a girlfriend. I just want challenge!

And, my friends who also socialize are getting around 80s, but they usually go to sleep at 1 AM for four days per week (but I always go to sleep at 12:30 PM).

And very smart people who have stopped studying/attending classes are at around 70s ..

 

[bravernix]

To me, humanity people suck (Work can be more pleasing than socializing - but those people know nothing more than socializing lol)!
I am in EE, and I work everyday (including Christmas and Summer breaks) and I am doing pretty good. On other side, I never talk to anyone who is not in my class (I only talk about work :D), and never go to parties ... and neither want a girlfriend. I just want challenge!

Good luck at your job interviews!

 

[rootX]

Thanks!
I did have them for my co-op, and got two offers this term.
But, I really confused some interviewers when they asked me what are my hobbies ><

I think ability to work in teams is more essential than social skills (two different things ).

 

[Dr. Courtney]

Partying several times a week and getting a degree in engineering are conflicting goals.

For successful students, college represents the beginning of real life, rather than a four year delay while they play.

Full time engineering and science majors are honest 50-60 hour per week jobs that take as much or more time and effort than the careers to which they lead.

Worthwhile? Yes.

Lots of partying? No.

Michael Courtney

 

[mordechai9]

It's just all about the GPA. You can do engineering and not work very hard and make a 2.5-3.0, which is usually enough to graduate. If you work a bit harder, you can hit 3.0-3.5 without too much trouble. However, if you are set on earning 3.5-4.0, it can be quite challenging. At a good university, this will require a ****-load of your time and it does indeed become difficult to maintain that kind of work output.

However, you can usually be employed pretty easily with a 3.0-3.5 GPA. Most companies don't care about GPA near as much as you'd think. They understand the engineering curriculum is usually very difficult and rigorous, and besides, you learn most of what you need to know on the job, not in school.

In my opinion, if you are interested in engineering, you should go ahead and pursue that... Just be realistic about your goals, and if you don't want to be a total study-freak, that's OK, but don't expect a 4.0 and highest honors when you graduate.

 

[mgiddy911]

This is a good distinction to make ( by that I mean Mordechai's post). I'd love to hear others opinions as I am sure some will not agree but anyways...

I thought about mentioning it earlier... I am one of those 3.0-3.5 category students. I lack the motivation to study 60 hours a week outside of classes just to get a 3.9+ gpa.
Sure I'm probably not going on to study at Cambridge, Oxford, Harvard or Cal Tech...
I've come to terms with that.

If you go through 4 years undergrad and study 60 hours a week and get a 3.9 gpa, and you enjoy yourself, then there is no problem. Me though, I would not enjoy that. I'd be pretty miserable. I like hanging out with my friends, playing in a band, going to the bar from time to time and drinking cheap pitchers of beer (wish I had the money for the good selection of imported beers ... but $4-10 per pint or ... $4 for a pitcher...)

So all in all, we will all be different. I like, and understand, mordechai's last comment, I am not expecting a 4.0 and highest honors. But I've had a good time, I feel I am doing decent, I don't think there is anything to be ashamed of from a 3.0-3.5 gpa. I feel I have picked up a lot of good social skills. My paper writing is certainly better than in high school. I hope to get back into foreign language studies, I dropped out of one of my French classes due to differences with the teacher.

 

[berkeman]

I thought about mentioning it earlier... I am one of those 3.0-3.5 category students. I lack the motivation to study 60 hours a week outside of classes just to get a 3.9+ gpa.
Sure I'm probably not going on to study at Cambridge, Oxford, Harvard or Cal Tech...
I've come to terms with that.

Well, speaking as someone who interviews EEs for fairly elite R&D positions, I want to comment on these last two posts. No, I don't weight GPA real high, but it is an indicator to me of how hard the person has worked in school, and what level they may understand the material. I don't think many candidates with less than about a 3.4-3.5 get past the first screening round for the positions we hire for.

As was correctly pointed out in these last two posts -- it takes more than just intelligence to push yourself up over the 3.5 mark or so. It takes motivation, self-starting, good study habits, and a good work ethic. And guess what? Those characteristics also make you a more valuable and productive engineer. That's been my experience, and I think many EEs working in the upper echelons of the field would agree.

 

[Dr. Courtney]

It's just all about the GPA. You can do engineering and not work very hard and make a 2.5-3.0, which is usually enough to graduate. If you work a bit harder, you can hit 3.0-3.5 without too much trouble. However, if you are set on earning 3.5-4.0, it can be quite challenging. At a good university, this will require a ****-load of your time and it does indeed become difficult to maintain that kind of work output.

However, you can usually be employed pretty easily with a 3.0-3.5 GPA. Most companies don't care about GPA near as much as you'd think. They understand the engineering curriculum is usually very difficult and rigorous, and besides, you learn most of what you need to know on the job, not in school.

To most folks hiring engineers, GPA doesn't merely represent knowledge gained or effort expended.

GPA represents how well you can be expected to please your furture bosses.

In a way, college is a microcosm of real life, with (roughly) 40 different opportunties (classes) to please 30 or so different bosses. A 3.9 GPA screams that you will figure out what it takes to please the "boss" (teacher) and do an excellent job delivering the goods 90% of the time, and do a good job the other 10% of the time.

Yes, engineers with GPAs in the 3.0-3.5 range will probably find employment as engineers, but they shouldn't be expecting $50K/year out of the gate.

Michael Courtney

 

[Edwardo_Elric]

gender: does not matter
program: does not matter
cultural background: does not matter
social life: does not matter

Also, a boyfriend is not a social life. Its ok if you don't have a social life, however, it is important you have good social skills.

i am one with no social life... but i need to improve my social skills

How will i do that?
read the news?, improve your vocabulary?, watching TV?, read a book about mannerisms? etc...??
i would like to hear about someone's opinion of this...

 

[bravernix]

i am one with no social life... but i need to improve my social skills

How will i do that?
read the news?, improve your vocabulary?, watching TV?, read a book about mannerisms? etc...??
i would like to hear about someone's opinion of this...

Ah..I think you're missing the point. Go out and join a club or something. To improve social skills you need to interact socially (with actual people).