How can one respect another's life choices?

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The discussion centers around the concept of empathizing with others by substituting their experiences for one's own, particularly when interacting with people from different backgrounds. Some participants express that they regularly adopt others' beliefs to enhance understanding, especially with family members, and engage in imaginative exercises to grasp the emotional impact of various life events. They highlight the importance of empathy in connecting with others, even in the face of extreme circumstances like poverty or mental illness. However, there is also a counterpoint raised about the limitations of truly understanding another's life experiences, emphasizing that such attempts can often be superficial and may lead to misinterpretation. The conversation reflects a tension between the desire for deep empathy and the recognition of its inherent challenges.
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Do you ever seriously consider substituting someone else's vital experiences for your own, especially with a person who differs significantly from you?
 
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... What?
 
I (temporarily) adopt other people's beliefs on a regular basis; it's just a normal part of relating to and communicating with other people for me. I've done it more extensively with my parents and grandparents to try to better understand them and our relationships.
Not sure what you mean by 'vital experiences'? I put myself in imaginary situations in order to understand what kind of impact some event may have on a person - going through the emotions, thought processes, etc. - is that what you mean? I do that occassionally with real people and habitually with fictional characters (when writing). It's probably one of the most natural and comfortable things in the world for me. :smile:
 
Loren Booda said:
Do you ever seriously consider substituting someone else's vital experiences for your own, especially with a person who differs significantly from you?
Yes, I have done that many times and all of my stories are famous, especially the last episode of "Me and Michael Johnson" :confused:
 
I'm fairly comfortable presently, being a well-off American citizen. But can I ever know of the extreme poverty the the majority worldwide suffer, the anguish and sociopathy the person on death row feels, or the abandonment so many experience at the end of their life in most nursing homes. This isn't "bleeding heart" liberalism if one makes an effort to connect with the supernatural concern that relates us all. Can I even appreciate what changes my own life holds for me, which extreme changes I may undergo in my own time, and whether I can bear looking back or ahead to my fate?

I feel as though I am privy to having lived several lifetimes and anticipate a few more. I have survived the lure of drugs, the cruelty of mental illness, and the death of my parents. Empathy guides me in relating to those whom I can help to some small degree, and rewards me with hope for all.

Thanks for your honest-tea, rosewater.
 
Loren Booda said:
Do you ever seriously consider substituting someone else's vital experiences for your own, especially with a person who differs significantly from you?

No. What kind of fool feels he can live the life of someone he isn't? Sure they say "put yourself in their shoes" but how can that really be possible unless we do it in the utmost superficial sense? We know nothing about their situation other then the part we're trying to focus on (plus of course, we can't even imagine pulling in all the externalities of their life).
 
How inaccurate or misinterpreted, then, is our judgement of another individual where critical insight is due?
 
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