Imaginary Girlfriends: Am I a Freak or Not?

[motai]

Alright.. I admit it. I have an imaginary girlfriend.

Since I am obviously completely inept at this sort of stuff, I have resorted to my imagination to solve my emotional woes. Anyone else have imaginary girlfriends, or am I just a freak?

 

[chroot]

- Warren

 

[Huckleberry]

I have lots of imaginary girlfriends. Mostly I use them as screensavers.

You're a bright, handsome young man. Why the difficulty finding a girlfriend?

 

[Moonbear]

Imaginary? Do you mean one you fantasize about? Or you tell others you have a girlfriend when you don't? Or the inflatable kind? The only of those that's going to get you in trouble is the second one if you run into someone you want to ask out after word gets out you already have a girlfriend.

 

[motai]

You're a bright, handsome young man. Why the difficulty finding a girlfriend?

Hmm.. I'm not sure myself actually. I think it is because I always end up talking about nerdy stuff or making corny math jokes all the time. I should probably chill with that for a while...

For a while I thought that girls thought that physics or math was attractive. I think I am horribly horribly off on that conjecture.

At least my imaginary girlfriend likes listening to my inane ramblings on whatever is on my mind, though she isn't much of a talker.

 

[motai]

Imaginary? Do you mean one you fantasize about? Or you tell others you have a girlfriend when you don't? Or the inflatable kind? The only of those that's going to get you in trouble is the second one if you run into someone you want to ask out after word gets out you already have a girlfriend.

The cognitive fantasizing type. Not the other two (inflatable !). I'm not mean enough to show off to my friends by revealing a super-ego.

 

[Huckleberry]

I'm not sure a real imaginary girlfriend is such a good idea. Are you serious or just playing? I can't really tell yet.

For a while I thought that girls thought that physics or math was attractive. I think I am horribly horribly off on that conjecture.

I think this depends on the girl actually. What kind of a woman do you tend to be attracted to? Do you have difficulty approaching women?

 

[motai]

I'm not sure a real imaginary girlfriend is such a good idea. Are you serious or just playing? I can't really tell yet.

I think this depends on the girl actually. What kind of a woman do you tend to be attracted to? Do you have difficulty approaching women?

Its 3/4 serious. Some part of me just doesn't want to accept an imaginary girlfriend as a real substitute.

I generally like people who I can relate with. This usually means that they are fairly intelligent (doesn't always have to be that way though), but I want to be able to understand them as much as they would understand me. I don't really have a difficulty approaching women, but I tend to be a little shy. I place their interests higher than my own so I generally don't make any unwanted moves (don't want to make them feeling uncomftorable). I don't, however, mind striking up conversations and complimenting them.

 

[Moonbear]

Its 3/4 serious. Some part of me just doesn't want to accept an imaginary girlfriend as a real substitute.

And well you shouldn't! It's okay to fantasize, normal even, but to substitute that for a real relationship would be a problem.

I generally like people who I can relate with. This usually means that they are fairly intelligent (doesn't always have to be that way though), but I want to be able to understand them as much as they would understand me. I don't really have a difficulty approaching women, but I tend to be a little shy. I place their interests higher than my own so I generally don't make any unwanted moves (don't want to make them feeling uncomftorable). I don't, however, mind striking up conversations and complimenting them.

Give it time. You're still young and quality is worth waiting for.

 

[Gale]

oh motai! i can promise you there are girls out there who find math and physics VERY attractive, (waves hands, points to self.) and i know I'm a weird gal, but i can't be the only one out there like that.

if it makes you feel any better, i used to go to sleep at night, and imagine that there was a boy out there, who i probably hadn't met yet, but who was thinking of mw, and that we both were just waiting for the day that we'd meet up and both be happy. It wasn't like an imaginary boyfriend... but it was comforting to think that i wasn't really alone...

just wait till you get out around more people... you'll find girls you can relate to.

 

[Huckleberry]

Its 3/4 serious. Some part of me just doesn't want to accept an imaginary girlfriend as a real substitute.

I generally like people who I can relate with. This usually means that they are fairly intelligent (doesn't always have to be that way though), but I want to be able to understand them as much as they would understand me. I don't really have a difficulty approaching women, but I tend to be a little shy. I place their interests higher than my own so I generally don't make any unwanted moves (don't want to make them feeling uncomftorable). I don't, however, mind striking up conversations and complimenting them.

I don't think they will accept the imaginary girlfriend. That would scare most women away posthaste.

Highschool (or whatever the equivalent is where you live) might not be the best place for a guy like you to meet women. University is a whole different ball game. The women there will be much more interested in academic pursuits and may appreciate your intelligence and sense of humor.

It's good that you are a gentleman. This might sound strange, but I would not recommend being too much of a gentleman. Be polite and considerate and sincere, but don't make a footstool out of yourself. I've found that making women feel a little uncomfortable, off-balance can pique their interest. Confidence is charming. It gives a sense of security to the relationship. But don't over do it. Subtlety is an art.

Don't give up. Try to stay hopeful. Be true to yourself. Be honest with her. All that good stuff. Don't expect things to happen soon. Enjoy them when they happen.

 

[Danger]

i used to go to sleep at night, and imagine that there was a boy out there, who i probably hadn't met yet, but who was thinking of mw, and that we both were just waiting for the day that we'd meet up and both be happy.

Hang on a second here! I thought that you were my imaginary girlfriend. But if you're real, then what the hell have I been... oops...

 

[Evo]

Alright.. I admit it. I have an imaginary girlfriend.

Since I am obviously completely inept at this sort of stuff, I have resorted to my imagination to solve my emotional woes. Anyone else have imaginary girlfriends, or am I just a freak?

When I was younger there weren't that many great guys to date, so I would think about the type of guy I would love to meet and think about what we do and where we would go. It was my relaxing before bedtime ritual, and would become my dream when I fell asleep. This is how I became proficient in directed dreamming.

Everynight before going to bed I would think about what I would dream about that night and make it happen. If the dream starts to go into a direction I don't like, I rewind and start over from the point I want to change and make it better.

 

[motai]

I don't think they will accept the imaginary girlfriend. That would scare most women away posthaste.

I doubt the imaginary girlfriend will be permanent. Its mostly just a fixation in my mind to keep the sinking depression at bay . So far its hard for me to see the greener pastures when I'm listening to the music that I am right now (accordion love songs played by the group Big Bad Voodoo Daddy) . I got to control my playlist a little better.

But thanks for the advice Huckleberry, Gale, and Moonbear. I tend to get a little ancy with stuff like this.

I'm still surprised that no one has interjected and poked fun at the imaginary girlfriend thing. Everyone is so nice around here .

 

[Danger]

If the dream starts to go into a direction I don't like, I rewind and start over from the point I want to change and make it better.

It's a good thing I don't know how to do that; sleeping is the only time I get any rest.

 

[Evo]

(accordion love songs played by the group Big Bad Voodoo Daddy) .

My company had Big Bad Voodoo Daddies play at a private party for us in New Orleans, They were great.

I'm still surprised that no one has interjected and poked fun at the imaginary girlfriend thing. Everyone is so nice around here .

It's a normal part of growing up. No, if you fall madly in love with her and want to mary her, you have a problem. But thinking about a girl that you would like and she would like you too, and you enjoy some things together is alright. It's fantasy. Fantsasy can be healthy if it doesn't become obsessive.

 

[Huckleberry]

Yeah, it's when your imaginary girlfriend stops becoming imaginary to you that there is a real problem. Still probably not something you would want to tell a girl that you're interested in right away.

 

[Gale]

Yeah, it's when your imaginary girlfriend stops becoming imaginary to you that there is a real problem. Still probably not something you would want to tell a girl that you're interested in right away.

no no, the problem starts when your imaginary girlfriend gets out of control. first she starts mouthing off, and then sleeping with your best friend, and then she burns down your house... THAT'S a problem! don't let her get out of line... if she starts acting up, you best get that biyatch to step off you hear?

 

[Moonbear]

Yeah, it's when your imaginary girlfriend stops becoming imaginary to you that there is a real problem. Still probably not something you would want to tell a girl that you're interested in right away.

Yeah, while those of us a bit older know it's all normal, it might scare off someone your own age until you get to know her better.

 

[Moonbear]

no no, the problem starts when your imaginary girlfriend gets out of control. first she starts mouthing off, and then sleeping with your best friend, and then she burns down your house... THAT'S a problem! don't let her get out of line... if she starts acting up, you best get that biyatch to step off you hear?

If your imaginary girlfriend burns down your house, seek immediate psychiatric attention.

 

[Huckleberry]

no no, the problem starts when your imaginary girlfriend gets out of control. first she starts mouthing off, and then sleeping with your best friend, and then she burns down your house... THAT'S a problem! don't let her get out of line... if she starts acting up, you best get that biyatch to step off you hear?

Yeah, if she gets out of control just give Gale a call. She'll lay the smack down.

 

[The_Professional]

Alright.. I admit it. I have an imaginary girlfriend.

Since I am obviously completely inept at this sort of stuff, I have resorted to my imagination to solve my emotional woes. Anyone else have imaginary girlfriends, or am I just a freak?

Just don't tell about your imaginary gf to any gal you're going to meet now and in the future

It's normal to be shy, especially at your age. Just make sure to always make them laugh and smile. If you do she'll rob banks for you

 

[Danger]

Just make sure to always make them laugh

As long as it's not prompted by your undressing...

 

[Smurf]

I had an imaginary girlfriend once. Then I cheated on her with a real girl, she left me.


Sometimes I still cry at night.
WHY DID I DO IT!?

 

[Artman]

Does she have a sister? (Danger needs a woman. )

no no, the problem starts when your imaginary girlfriend gets out of control. first she starts mouthing off, and then sleeping with your best friend, and then she burns down your house... THAT'S a problem! don't let her get out of line... if she starts acting up, you best get that biyatch to step off you hear?

Good advice. When your imaginary girl is a tramp, dump the loser.

Oooh, when you think about it, if your imaginary girl friend is sleeping with your real guy friends...doesn't that mean your imagination is sleeping with your real guy...Eeeeeewwwww!

 

[Danger]

Does she have a sister? (Danger needs a woman. )

Not yet. Still plenty of sheep around.

 

[BobG]

Does she have a sister? (Danger needs a woman. )


Good advice. When your imaginary girl is a tramp, dump the loser.

Oooh, when you think about it, if your imaginary girl friend is sleeping with your real guy friends...doesn't that mean your imagination is sleeping with your real guy...Eeeeeewwwww!

What are you talking about? I thought Gale said "then sleeping with your best friend", not your 'real guy friends'.

In any event, I never really got along with any of my imaginary friends - male or female. Same complicated romantic relationships Gale17 noted - androids really do dream of electric sheep.

 

[Artman]

Not yet. Still plenty of sheep around.

I've got a funny sheep related story. I play guitar in a band at my church and we were having an evening service where our band plays. During the service, our minister has a moment where she talks. Her talk was about the "Good Shepherd." The service is informal so at one point she asks, "Does anyone have anything they would like to add?"
The guy playing guitar next to me leans over and quietly says, "know any good sheep stories?"

 

[russ_watters]

I have two close female friends that I sometimes refer to as "girlfriend substitutes". We hang out so much, we may as well be dating -- we just aren't.

I've had imaginary relationships - the girl's always real, its just that I'll never actually get to date Natalie Portman...

 

[Gale]

I have two close female friends that I sometimes refer to as "girlfriend substitutes". We hang out so much, we may as well be dating -- we just aren't.

I've had imaginary relationships - the girl's always real, its just that I'll never actually get to date Natalie Portman...

DOESN'T COUNT! if you're going to be delusional, you have to go all the way, sheesh!

 

[Artman]

DOESN'T COUNT! if you're going to be delusional, you have to go all the way, sheesh!

Hey, if they're being delusional, some of these guys may actually GET to go all the way!

 

[Astronuc]

The women there will be much more interested in academic pursuits and may appreciate your intelligence and sense of humor.

It's good that you are a gentleman. This might sound strange, but I would not recommend being too much of a gentleman. Be polite and considerate and sincere, but don't make a footstool out of yourself. I've found that making women feel a little uncomfortable, off-balance can pique their interest. Confidence is charming. It gives a sense of security to the relationship. But don't over do it. Subtlety is an art.

Don't give up. Try to stay hopeful. Be true to yourself. Be honest with her. All that good stuff. Don't expect things to happen soon. Enjoy them when they happen.

I second that.

In fact, Motai, you have my permission to date my daughter any time.

 

[Paragon]

Alright.. I admit it. I have an imaginary girlfriend.

Since I am obviously completely inept at this sort of stuff, I have resorted to my imagination to solve my emotional woes. Anyone else have imaginary girlfriends, or am I just a freak?

hey, Motai?

Tired of your friends and family telling you to get a girlfriend?
Want to make that certain someone a little jealous?
Need a confidence boost? Just feeling lonely sometimes?

here we go: http://www.imaginarygirlfriends.com/

Cheers!

 

[russ_watters]

Whoa, that's disturbing.

 

[zoobyshoe]

Whoa, that's disturbing.

Good springboard for a movie plot, though: Bored girl takes job as imaginary girlfriend for extra bucks only to find herself increasingly drawn to geek she's assigned to...

 

[Moonbear]

here we go: http://www.imaginarygirlfriends.com/

Cheers!

Wow! Does the word "desperate" jump into anyone's mind with that link? Just wait until the real girlfriend finds that stash of loveletters, and you have to explain who this girlfriend was you never told her about! Can you pay a premium and get the imaginary psychotic stalker of an ex-girlfriend? I hear those can really spice up your life.

 

[SpaceTiger]

Alright.. I admit it. I have an imaginary girlfriend.

Oops, dude, I swear I didn't know she was spoken for.

 

[franznietzsche]

It's a normal part of growing up. No, if you fall madly in love with her ... you have a problem. But thinking about a girl that you would like and she would like you too, and you enjoy some things together is alright. It's fantasy. [/QUOTE]

Oh its only so much a problem when you attach that fantasy to a real person. Then it all goes to ****.

To Motai:

I know the feeling. It sucks. but that's life. Solution: Spend your time building your own beowulf cluster. Who needs women when you can compute in parallel?

 

[loseyourname]

Is that really a normal part of growing up? I didn't even want a girlfriend until the latter half of high school. I must have had 90% of my middle school and freshman/sophomore class ask me out at some point or another, and I said no to every last one of them (you'd think they'd give up at some point). What the hell made an anti-social misfit so attractive is beyond me.

Anyway, I do have my imaginary mistress, who keeps me company when the real girls aren't enough:

In my world, Jennifer Connelly never says no.

 

[zoobyshoe]

What the hell made an anti-social misfit so attractive is beyond me.

It's becaused they sensed you had no interest whatever in them. This is a strange dynamic, but it crops up alot. Maybe it boils down to people becoming inwardly alarmed that there's something they can't have, I'm not sure.

 

[ShawnD]

Wow! Does the word "desperate" jump into anyone's mind with that link? Just wait until the real girlfriend finds that stash of loveletters, and you have to explain who this girlfriend was you never told her about!

How would you even deal with a situation like that? Would you tell her that you still love your ex, or do you tell her you're weirdo who makes up girlfriends?


That movie Fight Club had an interesting idea. Instead of imagining what you want from other people, imagine what you want from yourself. Don't try to act like that person; actually become that person. Just draw the line at changing your name and getting a fake SS/SI number

 

[stoned]

why don't you buy yourself a doll (life size), you know to do some stuff...

 

[Gale]

Being an Imaginary Girlfriend can be a lot of fun and can earn you money too! You can be an Imaginary Girlfriend for several clients at once and have unlimited earning potential. We allow you to set your own prices for your services and benefit from our generous profit sharing program. You can earn $30 to $100 per Imaginary Relationship!

hey... i was looking for a summer job!
mum and dad: You need a job! you can't sit around all summer, doing nothing. and if you want to go out and buy new clothes... you've got to pay for it yourself! you need to learn some responsibilty you can't just expect to get by on your wits, charm, and good looks. you need to go...
me: HEY! i have a job!
them: huh?
me: ya, i just send boys my picture, and then write them nice letters, and i pretend to be their girlfriend. then they send me money.
them: *speachless*

that'd be awesome. you have to be 18 though... god... what don't you have to be 18 for... well at any rate, if you're still looking for an imaginary girlfriend to show off to your buddies fellas, in october... let me know

 

[ShawnD]

Try anyway. How are they actually going to check if you're not 18?
Also learn photoshop. That way you can put fake tatoos on your pictures

 

[loseyourname]

It's becaused they sensed you had no interest whatever in them. This is a strange dynamic, but it crops up alot. Maybe it boils down to people becoming inwardly alarmed that there's something they can't have, I'm not sure.

There is that. People always want what they can't have.

 

[motai]

When I was younger there weren't that many great guys to date, so I would think about the type of guy I would love to meet and think about what we do and where we would go. It was my relaxing before bedtime ritual

Yeah, that is more along the lines of what I was experiencing. It wasn't an actual full-out "imaginary girlfriend" like Paragon's link *shudders*. Its not like I write love letters to a ficticious entity, it is more or less just a random passive thought (am I thinking about loving an imaginary girlfriend right this second? no. Actually I might as well ditch the concept of one and find a real one, haven't thought about "her" recently )

I guess I should have titled this thread "Fantasy girlfriends" but "imaginary girlfriends" implies

girlfriend * \sqrt{-1}

I second that.

In fact, Motai, you have my permission to date my daughter any time.

 

[Huckleberry]

In my world, Jennifer Connelly never says no.

You and me both!

Ever since I've seen 'Labyrinth' I've had a thing for Jennifer Connelly. My favorite part are the fieries...
"Where you goin' with a head like that?"
"Hey lady, it's against the rules to take off other people's heads."
"Yeah, you're only aloud to take off your own head."
"I know, let's take off her head."

Please nobody see Diana in the Imaginary Girlfriends website
Please nobody see Diana in the Imaginary Girlfriends website

 

[ShawnD]

Its not like I write love letters to a ficticious entity

Telling friends that you're sleeping with your imaginary girl isn't any better

At least none of those sessions ends with her saying "don't worry it happens sometimes" while you put your head in your hands and cry in the corner.

 

[Astronuc]

Re: imaginarygirlfriends.com website

Wow! Does the word "desperate" jump into anyone's mind with that link?

Like Russ mentioned, "Disturbing" is what jumps to mind. Actually, the more I think about it - "Depraved" comes to mind.

Motai, based on my experience in high school, there must be girls in your classes. Just start talking to them, but go beyond math and science, e.g. your taste in music, art, . . . whatever.

I just found your post that says that you graduated HS, so I don't know if you are still taking classes. Don't waste any time - just start talking to the girls in your class or commencement.


I found out a few years ago that a very nice girl had a crush on me back in high school. She still remembered me after 25+ years. I always figured she had plenty of guys chasing her, but apparently she was hoping I would have asked her out.

She did approach me one time in the library. She came up behind me and leaned over me with her chest on top of my forehead (this sounds bawdy, but she had a full figure ). I guess that was supposed to give me a hint. She asked me to look after he purse while she went to do something. I guess she didn't realize she needed to take a sledgehammer and hit me upside the head. Arrggghhh!

So, don't miss an opportunity.

 

[icvotria]

Ever since I've seen 'Labyrinth' I've had a thing for Jennifer Connelly. My favorite part are the fieries...
"Where you goin' with a head like that?"
"Hey lady, it's against the rules to take off other people's heads."
"Yeah, you're only aloud to take off your own head."
"I know, let's take off her head."

"Hey, her head don't come off!"
"Of course it doesn't!"
I love that film too. I don't have a thing for Jennifer Connelly though. I fancy Ludo