Ok, I'd like to start by saying that I'm in the same boat entirely as you! I don't understand any of this crazy mathsy language. But in my efforts to try to understand, I've grasped some rough concepts. I'd like to outline my understanding, though it's almost certainly wrong, so that someone can either say that I'm right (doubtful) or maybe correct where I'm going wrong.
As I see it, every observable property in quantum mechanics, such as position, momentum, energy, angular momentum, can be found by applying what is known as a "self-adjoint operator" on a Hilbert space. This hilbert space is constructed from bases. I don't know if these bases are functions or unit vectors in the space or if these are equivalent. Anyway, these operators, which I've always had told to me are derivatives (like \mathbf{p}={\hbar\over i}\nabla), have associated matrices. These matrices are Hermitian, that is to say the transpose of the matrix is the same as the complex conjugate of the matrix... Transpose is that funny dagger. Quoting wikipedia:-
If the conjugate transpose of a [hermitian] matrix ''A'' is denoted by A^*, then this can concisely be written as
:A = A^*. \,
For example:
\begin{bmatrix}3&2+i\\<br />
2-i&1\end{bmatrix}
I don't understand this at all. Is this to say that the star means take the transpose of the matrix, then take the complex conjugate. Is this the same (for a Hermitian matrix) as taking the complex conjugate twice, which is the same as transposing the matrix twice? Am I understanding correctly?
How is it that an operator has an associated matrix? Is it that the operators have eigenfunctions and eigenvalues in the same way as matrices have eigenvectors and eigenvalues. Thus a (wave?) function is a vector in Hilbert space? This is foggy at best. Is this all down to the two different formulations of QM by Schrodinger and Heisenberg? Can I look at the two formulations as the same? Or are they different beasts which I have to keep distinct?
If someone could clear all this up, I'd love them forever! Also, how does all this relate to bras and kets? I've never been formally taught dirac notation and I've just moved to France where they use it everywhere. In England, they just avoided it, prefering operators and trying not to confuse us with the maths, just making sure that we understand the concepts... Help!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-adjoint_operator
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hermitian_matrix