the best R-linear approximation of a smooth map from C to C, is an element of the complex vector space HomR(C,C). (I.e. it is easy to multiply an R-linear transformation by a complex number, multiplying on the values.) The derivative in the real sense of a map from C to C, is such an R linear map (at each point).
This vector space has two natural subspaces, HomC(C,C), and HomCbar(C,C), the complex linear and conjugate linear maps, and they decompose HomR(C,C) into a direct sum. I.e. every real linear map C-->C can be written uniquely as a sum of a C-linear and a conjugate linear map.
In the case of a smooth map C-->C, the conjugate linear part of the real derivative, is called the ∂/∂zbar derivative, and the C-linear part is called the ∂/∂z derivative.
I.e. every R linear map from C to C can be written as a.z + b.zbar, with a, b complex constants. People who like derivatives to be numbers will call the coefficient a the ∂/∂z derivative, and the coefficient b, the ∂/∂zbar derivative.
We define a complex function to be holomorphic if its ∂/∂zbar derivative = 0. In the case of the function zbar, the ∂/∂z derivative = 0, and the ∂/∂zbar derivative equals 1.
To link this up with posts by Hurkyl and Micromass, notice that as a linear transformation, df = ∂f/∂x dx + ∂f/∂y dy.
Since dz+dzbar = 2dx, and dz-dzbar = 2idy, one can substitute for dx and dy in the expression for df and solve for the coefficients of dz and dzbar,
getting df = (1/2)(∂f/∂x -i ∂f/∂y) dz + (1/2)(∂f/∂x + i∂f/∂y) dzbar.
Thus ∂f/∂z, the coefficient of dz in the expression for df is what Micromass said. It is not however properly a definition, but a computation. Of course you can make it a definition, at the expense of trying to explain why you defined it that way.
This point of view makes some things obvious that are mentioned in that wiki article linked above, such as the laborious chain rule formulas there. I.e. it is trivial that in the composition of two R linear functions, the C-linear part of the composition arise from composing either both C-linear or both Cbar linear parts.
In fact the point of view given here is the original one, since it dates all the way back to Riemann, who expressed it on the second page of his inaugural dissertation in 1851, On the foundations of a general theory of functions of a complex variable. He writes out there the full expression for dw, in the form above, decomposing it into a dx+idy part, and a dx-idy part, i.e. into a dz and dzbar part.
He then distinguishes a class of functions he wishes to study, for which dw is always proportional only to dz, i.e. for which the coefficient of dx-idy is zero. This condition is of course the famous "Cauchy-Riemann" condition, that i∂f/∂x = ∂f/∂y.