DAC said:
In Einstein's train/lightning strike thought experiment, the embankment and train observers disagree on the simultaneity of the events.
But let's alter the experiment so that if the strikes are seen to be simultaneous, ( embankment observer ), the combined strikes blow up the entire experiment. The train observer will say the strikes were not simultaneous so there was no explosion. How can both observers views be correct?
If we imagine one mechanism set up in the embankment frame with an explosive charge that blows up the mechanism on simultaneous strikes, and another mechanism set up in the train frame with a similar explosive charge, everyone in both frames will agree that the bomb in the embankment frame goes off - destroying it's mechanism - while the bomb in the train frame doesn't go off, leaving it's mechanism intact.
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The challenge of changing deeply-held student beliefs about the relativity of simultaneity" http://arxiv.org/abs/physics/0207081 may be helpful. The observation you made is good, and avoids one of the pitfalls mentioned in the paper:
Failure to recognize that events
that occur in one frame occur in all
frames
So you've recognized and avoided that pitfall, but have apparently fallen into another one. What seems to be missing is recognizing that in the moving frame, a bomb attached to the train with an identical mechanism (but different sensors and wires, sensors and wires which are fixed to the train and hence are moving in the embankment frame) will not go off. Why you are missing this, I can't say as of yet.
Note that in the paper above, the "bomb" was replaced with a less dramatic tape player, that starts on one signal and stops on the other, and the question asked is "does the tape player play in the embankment frame" and "does the tape player play in the train frame". The other difference is that the only mechanism considered is a mechanism
on the train. There is no reason you can't introduce another mechanism on the ground if you wish, but it's not really terribly relevant. If you do introduce such an additional mechanism, it confirms that the events were in fact simultaneous in the embankment frame. But you still need to address the question of what happens to the mechanism
attached to the train. And you're not really considering that, you're focussing on the wrong mechanism (one attached to the embankment).