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jarednjames said:Talking evil for some people can be saying something truly horrific like "homosexuality is ok".
Sure.
jarednjames said:Talking evil for some people can be saying something truly horrific like "homosexuality is ok".
jarednjames said:Not sure where this bias stuff came from.
Again, this isn't under the realms of the paper.
I agree there, so does the paper.
I'm not entirely sure what this is in regards to the paper either.
I addressed a specific example (do you know how difficult it is to find papers on this matter?). The paper addresses using profanity in discussion, specifically when trying to be persuasive. It shows it doesn't work to improve and can even have a negative effect. This particular example does apply in a work place scenario. And so far is the only real substance that's been put into this thread.
I'm currently on a document which discusses swearing and it's ability to relieve pain, I'll try to get that up soon. Still, nothing to do with the paper.
Peed off = p*ssed off. Just a 'polite' way of putting it.
nismaratwork said:I would say that, for better or worse, hearing swears is a part of life for a grown woman or man. If she is so impaired by words, then like an irrational fear of anything, she should seek treatment...
...We GIVE words this power with every tiny act of personal and mass cowardice,.
Hurkyl said:There isn't a swearing instinct.
An instinct to make an exclamation of some sort I can believe, but not everybody is raised to use vulgarity reflexively.
I don't believe onomatopoeia like "Ow!" or "Aah!" are uncommon exclamations in response to stubbing one's toe. You are likely to hear me follow up with repeated utterances of "Pain! Pain! Agony!" and possibly more "Ow!" mixed in, but uttered more as a word than as a noise.
At my company, any use of verbiage that makes anyone else uncomfortable is terms for immediate dismissal. Our company slogan, plastered on walls everywhere is "Not here, not ever". And we're one of the nation's top employers. So Flex, got to say sorry, you're wrong.FlexGunship said:So, I got a very passive aggressive note from a fellow employee, not directed towards me specifically since it was in an e-mail to everyone in the group, saying: "I think less use of profanity in the office would be appropriate."
We all swear in different degrees (except for this guy)... even our mutual manager gets fairly profane. This is the first time he's expressed displeasure. I am very much opposed to restriction of speech at work.
I was thinking of replying with "If you think you have a workable set of rules..."
Any thoughts forum?
EDIT: Also considering making a joke about how "painful" it is to work here, and providing this as a reference: (http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=why-do-we-swear).
apeiron said:This is rhetoric rather than argument now. You want to say that I am irrational and cowardly if I see neurobiological justifications for constraints on swearing.
So yes, you agree by implication I am having an unavoidable emotional reaction. But it is the "wrong one", an illegitimate one. So one that you don't need to regard.
But I am arguing at a level below this. If there is an unavoidable emotional reaction that is part of expressive speech, then this does raise the legitimate issue of where we should draw the line. Is it rational or irrational to object. Brave or cowardly to have sent out an email of complaint?
You have to actually make the argument now one way or the other, rather than just employ emotionally-charged language to produce a rhetorical conclusion.
I can easily agree with most of what you otherwise say here about the reality of swearing. In practice, it is no big deal as we are all fairly world-wise and multicultural. And from that point of view, this complaining worker could be considered overly-parochial.
But that does not get away from the deeper story - which is always the actually interesting one to me. It is telling the human brain still betrays its underpining of "centres" for expressive vocalisation. And that free speech philosophical debates appear not to have dealt with this bit of neurobiological knowledge in an explicit way.
If you thought the free speech debate is a done deal, then this says not. Unless you can brush it under the carpet by calling it irrational, cowardly and other emotional terms of abuse.
Evo said:At my company, any use of verbiage that makes anyone else uncomfortable is terms for immediate dismissal. Our company slogan, plastered on walls everywhere is "Not here, not ever". And we're one of the nation's top employers. So Flex, got to say sorry, you're wrong.
Evo said:At my company, any use of verbiage that makes anyone else uncomfortable is terms for immediate dismissal. Our company slogan, plastered on walls everywhere is "Not here, not ever". And we're one of the nation's top employers. So Flex, got to say sorry, you're wrong.
nismaratwork said:re: bold: And when someone says, "N Word" what is that then? When you say peed off, I know now that you're not kidding. Your INTENT and tone matters, not a curse. If you look at DanP and I in the gun thread, as we "part"... I'd say that's pretty hostile on both sides... no curses though.
I think we each got the point however..."I'll pray for you" in the "bite me" sense.
My point is that we should focus on the content, not the delivery.
After all, look at the paper... what OTHER things can you talk about that would turn women off? Maybe the issue is a preoccupation with cursing as sexual innuendo, and then as pressure... again, situational.
Look...
If a rapist is in court, and has just been convicted, he screams the "c" word at a woman on the jury. I think we'd all have a VERY visceral reaction to that word alone, and when you add the context it's chilling.
Flex is in the workplace, and he's chatting at the "watercooler... he remarks that he had the best ******* burrito last night. OK, not he most decorous delivery, but so what? No hostility, no group is being targeted, the curse itself doesn't demean women for instance, by its very nature.
If you call someone a bastard in the wrong part of the world, you'll pray you'd just sworn at them. One you separate swears from slurs, you're left with the verbal equivalent of smiles and emoticons. Nobody seems to respect them either, yet they're ubiquitous for their ability to convey context that normal language alone lacks.
nismaratwork said:No, anymore than people need to be held responsible for the abnormal psychology of any other type.
Hurkyl said:And TBH, I would generally find "It was ******* awesome" to be much less of a recommendation than a mere "It was awesome".
Jack21222 said:I believe you're one of the only speakers of the English language on this planet who feels that way. Everybody else seems to know that the f-word is used as an intensifier.
jarednjames said:Glad I mentioned the word intensifier now...
Actually, I'm with Hurkyl. I'd find a response without a swear (using the correct language) to be of no difference than someone who adds the swear as a flourish. For me personally, the swear simply indicates a persons inability to be suitably descriptive.
jarednjames said:Huh? I only used it there because I couldn't be arsed to type "p*****" (or any derivation to prevent filters going off). It wasn't meant to be seen as peed, but p*ssed. Shorthand if you will, not an attempt to be polite, no hidden intent. Looking at it now, I wished I'd just stuck with the usual.
Which is what the paper does, and it shows the content does impact on the listeners perception of what you are saying - badly. We are dealing with a discussion / debate style affair only within the paper (seriously, getting papers on this ain't easy so I'm working with what I've got).
Everything past this point has nothing to do with the paper. We've seen how far debates go when we only have opinions flying about, so now I'm trying to source some research on the subject. All the stuff below isn't relevant to the context of the paper and so I don't know if you meant it in response to the paper or not.
those who wouldn't understand
or stand for a more detailed or eloquent response.
Hurkyl said:There isn't a swearing instinct.
An instinct to make an exclamation of some sort I can believe, but not everybody is raised to use vulgarity reflexively.
I don't believe onomatopoeia like "Ow!" or "Aah!" are uncommon exclamations in response to stubbing one's toe. You are likely to hear me follow up with repeated utterances of "Pain! Pain! Agony!" and possibly more "Ow!" mixed in, but uttered more as a word than as a noise.
apeiron said:I would be blaming the rock for its malicious act and making it clear I am ready for all out war if it doesn't back off immediately.
It may indeed be silly to shout F**** C**** at a rock. But it does go directly to the particular nature of the emotional response. And so in turn to the possibly legitimate feelings of the worker in the OP.
jarednjames said:Glad I mentioned the word intensifier now...
Actually, I'm with Hurkyl. I'd find a response without a swear (using the correct language) to be of no difference than someone who adds the swear as a flourish. For me personally, the swear simply indicates a persons inability to be suitably descriptive.
Only the denotation is the same; Alice connotes an offense through her choice of words, Bob does not.nismaratwork said:If Bob says, "Ow, Ah! Owie wowie heck! Oh no, oh heck!" (real quote from me once, needle stick, but around juveniles)... with few exceptions bob is expressing:
Pain. Dismay. Fear. Distress.
If Alice says a litany of curses... it's the same thing. Pain, fear, distress, dismay.
What makes one manner of expression better than another, especially when what is a swear changes all the time?
apeiron said:Again, where is the line between normal and abnormal here? My argument was that it is evolutionarily normal to respond to expressive vocalisations. And just as normal to become habituated to them if they are not actual threats of course. Possibly abnormal to be oversensitised to them - or possibly not, depending on circumstances.
apeiron said:If swearing aggressively is being read as an aural assault by this worker, then the lack of an adequate response on the part of the workplace would quite rationally be read as reinforcing the aggressive impact. The longer the swearing is allowed to continue, the greater the perceived threat.
apeiron said:Do rights come without responsibilities when it comes to speech? But I think we are only talking about where to draw the line, not where the line should be drawn.
apeiron said:Like you probably, I would in fact draw the line pretty liberally (and I live in a society that does too - even newsreaders here say crap, bugger and piss-poor without bothering the population). But this was a question about the dynamics of a particular workplace. And I simply wanted to draw attention to a missing ingredient in the debate.
Jack21222 said:Hurkyl did NOT say there's no difference. Hurkyl said he'd find the description with the swear LESS of a recommendation. That makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.
Using the f-word in the context I mentioned (with the concert), IS being suitably descriptive. I can't understand how you believe LIMITING one's vocabulary makes one more descriptive. I argue that it's more descriptive to USE the words we have available. There's no reason to arbitrarily handicap your language in general. It doesn't make you a better person to work with a smaller vocabulary.
Hurkyl said:Only the denotation is the same; Alice connotes an offense through her choice of words, Bob does not.
Alice may not have intended an offense, but that doesn't change the fact she uttered one.
Eve violently flails about when she gets hurt. It's still the same thing -- pain, fear, distress, dismay. Would you have us pretend Eve isn't being violent just as you would have us pretend Alice isn't being offensive?
Jack21222 said:Using the f-word in the context I mentioned (with the concert), IS being suitably descriptive. I can't understand how you believe LIMITING one's vocabulary makes one more descriptive. I argue that it's more descriptive to USE the words we have available. There's no reason to arbitrarily handicap your language in general. It doesn't make you a better person to work with a smaller vocabulary.
jarednjames said:Limiting vocab? He added a number of words in the example without the swear in comparison to the one with. How is that limiting your vocabulary?
If I find "It was amazingly brilliant" a good recommendation and "It was f****** brilliant" less so, how does that make less sense? More vocab in the first - two beautifully descriptive, innocent words instead of one that may cause offence.
It's because you are not just asserting the concert was awesome in an intense manner -- you are modifying the meaning by adding the taint of profanity. While I can easily imagine some would disagree, I find that much less appealing than a pure expression of joy.Jack21222 said:Hurkyl did NOT say there's no difference. Hurkyl said he'd find the description with the swear LESS of a recommendation. That makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.
He didn't say "more descriptive", he said "suitably descriptive". It doesn't help to be "more descriptive" if your choice of descriptive words don't match the description you are trying to convey.Using the f-word in the context I mentioned (with the concert), IS being suitably descriptive. I can't understand how you believe LIMITING one's vocabulary makes one more descriptive. I argue that it's more descriptive to USE the words we have available. There's no reason to arbitrarily handicap your language in general. It doesn't make you a better person to work with a smaller vocabulary.
Hurkyl said:It's because you are not just asserting the concert was awesome in an intense manner -- you are modifying the meaning by adding the taint of profanity. While I can easily imagine some would disagree, I find that much less appealing than a pure expression of joy.
There is a secondary aspect -- you convey an attitude of casual obscenity, which has a mild implication that your tastes are quite misaligned with mine.
Hurkyl said:He didn't say "more descriptive", he said "suitably descriptive". It doesn't help to be "more descriptive" if your choice of descriptive words don't match the description you are trying to convey.
Taint, noun: "a contaminating mark or influence". Also, verb: "to touch or affect slightly with something bad" -- a synonym of contaminate that emphasizes the loss of purity. (reference, www.m-w.com)nismaratwork said:"taint of profanity". Social taint because of class-standards? Taint of rudeness? Taint of idiocy? What?
If nothing else, I would expect a decent correlation between the casual usage of profanity and the tolerance/preference for gratuitous use of profanity by others.Your assumption that taste and profanity somehow align in a predictable way is unproven and highly personal...
(Eve is the person who traditionally eavesdrops on Alice and Bob's conversations)nismaratwork said:I would be concerned that Evo isn't acting in a manner consistent with an adult of her age, gender, and background, and I'd be concerned.
You said she uttered a curse. If her utterance wasn't somehow profane, obscene, or otherwise offensive, then it wouldn't be a curse.Lets back up however... you said, "she uttered one"... an offense. You just opened up the world of, when is an offense offensive, and when does it STOP? How do words move up and down that scale, and if not through feedback and use...?
If I get hit in the face by someone flailing about in pain, I don't think I could take it any other way than feeling that I've been hit in the face.I'd say she uttered a word that carried the same feeling we all have when we feel pain, and in combination with gestures and flailing, Bob might TAKE offense (if he's utterly unaware of the situation),
While I am quote familiar with the notionSo no Hurkyl, unless you can somehow support the idea that offense originates in the word...
Evo said:At my company, any use of verbiage that makes anyone else uncomfortable is terms for immediate dismissal. Our company slogan, plastered on walls everywhere is "Not here, not ever". And we're one of the nation's top employers. So Flex, got to say sorry, you're wrong.
Hurkyl said:Quite a demonstration that one need not curse to be offensive. But then, nobody claimed otherwise.
Hurkyl said:Taint, noun: "a contaminating mark or influence". Also, verb: "to touch or affect slightly with something bad" -- a synonym of contaminate that emphasizes the loss of purity. (reference, www.m-w.com)
Such as when describing a profanity as a modifier, thus influencing the meaning of a word to include the profane / offensive nature of the profanity.
Hurkyl said:If nothing else, I would expect a decent correlation between the casual usage of profanity and the tolerance/preference for gratuitous use of profanity by others.
OK, that's good to know. I'll stick to convention.Hurkyl said:(Eve is the person who traditionally eavesdrops on Alice and Bob's conversations)
Hurkyl said:You said she uttered a curse. If her utterance wasn't somehow profane, obscene, or otherwise offensive, then it wouldn't be a curse.
Hurkyl said:If I get hit in the face by someone flailing about in pain, I don't think I could take it any other way than feeling that I've been hit in the face.
Hurkyl said:While I am quote familiar with the notion
"When I use a word, it means just what I choose it to mean—neither more nor less.”I am also quite aware that words have established meanings, otherwise we wouldn't be able to communicate very effectively.
Even if Eve didn't mean to hurt me by flailing around, that doesn't stop me from being hurt.
Hurkyl said:There isn't a swearing instinct.
An instinct to make an exclamation of some sort I can believe, but not everybody is raised to use vulgarity reflexively.
apeiron said:This is rhetoric rather than argument now. You want to say that I am irrational and cowardly if I see neurobiological justifications for constraints on swearing.
So yes, you agree by implication I am having an unavoidable emotional reaction. But it is the "wrong one", an illegitimate one. So one that you don't need to regard.
FlexGunship said:And not everybody is raised to fear vulgarity reflexively!
I mean, seriously, you can't see your own socio-cognitive bias here?! It's almost staggeringly obvious.
jarednjames said:Whats all this fear BS? Just because I dislike something doesn't mean I fear it.
Now, I have shown a source that indicates profanity having a negative effect on speech, I'm working through two others now. Unless you can show me a source that indicates a positive effect (pf guidelines and all that) I'm not really interested in anecdote and opinion.
(Source: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=why-do-we-swear Link to original paper available there)NeuroReport said:"Swearing is such a common response to pain that there has to be an underlying reason why we do it," says psychologist Richard Stephens of Keele University in England, who led the study. And indeed, the findings point to one possible benefit: "I would advise people, if they hurt themselves, to swear," he adds.