DrStupid said:
A rule for just two bodies that always guarantees global conservation of momentum is not meaningless but actually a brilliant idea.
Your rule does not guarantee anything like that. The property that ensures global momentum conservation in the three-body-system
$$m_i \ddot{\boldsymbol{r}}_i = \boldsymbol{F}_i(\boldsymbol{r}_1, \boldsymbol{r}_2, \boldsymbol{r}_3)$$
is the identity
$$\sum_{i=1,2,3}\boldsymbol{F}_i = 0.$$
This has nothing at all to do with how you split ##\boldsymbol{F}_1## into "action of body 2" and "action of body 3". If the above condition does not hold, then no decomposition whatsoever will help with momentum conservation. If it does hold, no arbitrary decomposition is needed for anything.
But that aside - wouldn't it be just as meaningless to split the net forces into n-body forces just because they depend on n bodies?
What split do you mean? The force ##\boldsymbol{F}_1(\boldsymbol{r}_1, \boldsymbol{r}_2, \boldsymbol{r}_3)## is defined as the force on body 1 caused by the simultaneous presence of body 2 and body 3 (not the action of either body). That's not meaningless. Now, whether a decomposition
$$\boldsymbol{F}_1(\boldsymbol{r}_1, \boldsymbol{r}_2, \boldsymbol{r}_3)=\boldsymbol{F}_{1,2}(\boldsymbol{r}_1, \boldsymbol{r}_2) + \boldsymbol{F}_{1,3}(\boldsymbol{r}_1, \boldsymbol{r}_3)$$
is possible or not, distinguishes sums of two-body forces from genuine three-body forces . Only if it is possible, does it make sense to call the first and second component the respective "action of body 2" and "action of body 3" on body 1.