I know I'm a bit late to the party, and it appears that the OP's query has been answered. But I want to post this because this type of question has appeared periodically on here.
The best way to see this is to actually look at a simulation of the collision of two objects. I have done this in my lesson on conservation of momentum with my students, and they seem to like it, so I'll repeat the gist of it here.
Open the PhET app on the Collision lab (you will need the capability of running Adobe Flash).
https://phet.colorado.edu/sims/collision-lab/collision-lab_en.html
First things first: click on "More Data" at the bottom of the screen so that you get to see the values of momentum and kinetic energy for each mass. You should have a screen that looks something like this:
In this exercise, the elasticity is at 100%.
Now, in my class, I asked the students to play around with the values of the masses such that they observe these cases (in all cases, m2 is stationary at the start):
1. m1 >> m2
2. m1 > m2
3. m1 = m2
4. m1 < m2
5. m1 << m2
I then ask them in which of those cases is the most accurate representation of these situations:
a) An 18-wheeler trailer colliding with a stationary ping pong ball
b) a pool ball colliding with another stationary pool ball
c) a bouncy ball bouncing off the floor
You will notice that as you increase m2 relative to m1, it will move less and less upon collision, until at some point (say m2 = 100 m1), m2 hardly will even move. Just think of how little m2 will move if m2 is the Earth and m1 is a bouncy ball. It moves so little that (i) m2 can still be considered as stationary, and (ii) m1 will have the same speed, but in the opposite direction, as the speed that it started with.
The conservation of momentum for the entire system (m1 + m2) is still valid. It is just that when one mass is significantly larger than the other, it may not be that obvious by itself until you perform an exercise such as this. This is what my students discover
on their own when they did this exercise in class.
Addendum: We also did cases where the elasticity is 0% elastic, and for m1 << m2, this corresponds to dropping a silly putty onto the floor.
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