Smattering said:
let's call it differential aging. Still, the concept will appear magical to most people who are not used to it.
Sure, that's unavoidable. The only response is to show them the experimental evidence that says it's true, and then give them the theoretical model (SR and Minkowski spacetime) that correctly predicts the experimental results.
Smattering said:
I really need to look up how the length of a world line is defined
It's defined as the integral of the line element ##ds^2## along the worldline. This isn't just true in spacetime; it's true in any Riemannian or pseudo-Riemannian manifold.
Smattering said:
I would have expected that the younger twin is the one with the longer world line and the older twin is the one with the shorter world line.
I assume that's because you are looking at the worldlines as they are drawn on a spacetime diagram, and seeing that, in the Euclidean geometry of the diagram, the younger twin's worldline is longer. But the actual geometry of spacetime is not Euclidean; it's Minkowskian. So the spacetime diagram, which can only be drawn in a medium with Euclidean geometry, cannot possibly represent all worldlines in Minkowskian spacetime with their actual spacetime lengths. (This should be obvious if you consider the worldline of a light ray: it's a 45-degree line on a spacetime diagram, with some nonzero Euclidean length, but its actual Minkowskian length is zero.) That's why you need to compute the length of the worldline using the formula I gave above; you can't just eyeball it from the diagram.
Smattering said:
there is no observer who sees them aging at the same average rate when averaging over the entire journey, is there?
No, of course not. But none of these observers can claim that their observations of the rates are the "right" ones, the ones we should use as an absolute standard. There is no absolute standard for observing "rates of aging". The only absolute is the actual differential aging that is observed when the twins meet up again, and that is not a rate, it's just two different ages.
Smattering said:
although there is no absolute standard to which rates are measured, there is indeed an intersubjective agreement that the twins are aging at a different average rate between departure and reunification.
The "average rate" is not a direct observable; it's something that's calculated. The direct observable is the different ages of the twins when they meet up again. The "average rate" is really just a different way of representing this same observable.
Furthermore, "average rate" is not an absolute way of representing that observable, unlike the observable itself, the difference in ages. Why? Consider: what do you divide the different ages by in order to get the average rate? There is no answer; there is no absolute number that represents the "reference" amount of time elapsed between the two events (the twins separating and meeting up again). So there's no absolute number you can divide the different ages by to get different average rates. The different ages themselves are the only absolute numbers in the scenario.