Mister T said:
usually the word "observe" is used.
Yes, and it has the same problems.

Unfortunately, there isn't really a good word to describe this; I often try to say "calculate", but that's cumbersome. Sometimes I've tried "judge", but that doesn't seem to help much.
Mister T said:
Say the traveling twin agrees to send a signal back home when he arrives. The stay-at-home twin gets the signal, subtracts off the travel time of the signal, and arrives at a result. That is the result of a calculation.
Yes, that's the sort of calculation I had in mind.
Mister T said:
But isn't it the case that most measurements are the result of calculations?
Not in the same way. For example, suppose the stay-at-home twin measures the Doppler shift of the signal from the traveling twin. That measurement is the "result of a calculation", in the sense that he can't directly detect the shift; he can only detect the frequency. He calculates the shift as the difference between the frequency he detects and the (presumed known) frequency of emission.
Now contrast this with the stay-at-home twin's calculation of the time of emission of the signal the traveling twin sends when he turns around. He directly measures the time of arrival of the signal. He subtracts off the travel time--but how does he know the travel time? He can't measure it directly, and it's not a previously known constant like the emission frequency of the light signal. He has to calculate it. How does he calculate it? Well, he knows the traveling twin's speed--or at least he knows what speed the traveling twin said he was going to use, and how long the traveling twin intended to travel, by his own clock, before he turned around. Or, he can watch the traveling twin continuously, detecting light signals from him all during his outward trip (assuming the traveling twin is emitting such signals), and use the Doppler measurements from those signals to verify the traveling twin's speed away from him. When he then receives the turnaround signal (which he will detect by the sudden shift in Doppler from redshift to blueshift), he can then go back and put together all those measurements and calculate the travel time of the turnaround signal based on the distance the traveling twin was when he emitted it. But all that is a lot more complicated, and involves more variables, than the simple calculation of the difference between received frequency and known emitted frequency.
To an extent this is a judgment call, of course; but I think it's clear that there's a big difference between the "calculation" of the Doppler shift and the calculation of the traveling twin's turnaround time, big enough to justify using the term "measurement" for the first but not the second.