Jarle said:
What I wonder is, why would the Earth see this object as "younger" if the object could say the same thing?
Let's set up an example and trace through it carefully. Let the Earth and Star Base Alpha be at rest with respect to each other in inertial reference frame S, 4 light-years (ly) apart. Their clocks are synchronized in frame S.
The traveler starts out at rest in frame S, near the Earth. He looks out his window and synchronizes his clock with the clock on Earth. When the two clocks both read zero, he starts his trip to Alpha, accelerating very rapidly so he quickly reaches a cruising speed of 0.8c (0.8 ly/yr), before he's gotten very far. He is now at rest in a second inertial reference frame, S'.
In frame S, he travels the distance of 4 ly at speed 0.8 ly/yr, arriving at Alpha at t = 5 yr, and decelerates quickly to a stop. During the trip, his clock runs slower in frame S by a factor of 3/5, so when he arrives at Alpha, his clock should read 3 yr.
In frame S', of course, the traveler's clock runs at its normal rate, and the clocks on Earth and on Alpha run slower by a factor of 3/5. But those two clocks are also not synchronized in S', because of the
relativity of simultaneity. In S', the Alpha clock runs "ahead" of the Earth clock by v \Delta x / c^2 = (0.8 ly/yr)(4 ly)(1 ly/yr)^2 = 3.2 yr. Therefore, just after the traveler begins his trip, in his new frame (S'), the Earth clock still reads (practically) zero, the Alpha clock reads 3.2 yr. The traveler might describe this by saying that during his acceleration, the distant clock on Alpha jumps ahead by 3.2 yr, whereas the nearby clock on Earth keeps the same reading.
In S', the distance between Earth and Alpha is contracted to 2.4 ly, so his trip lasts (2.4 ly) / (0.8 ly/yr) = 3 yr according to him. During that time, the time-dilated Earth and Alpha clocks both advance by (3/5)(3 yr) = 1.8 yr. The Earth clock advances from 0 to 1.8 yr, and the Alpha clock advances from 3.2 yr to 5.0 yr.
Finally, when the traveler decelerates to a stop at Alpha, he switches back to frame S. In this frame, the clock at Alpha (which is now right next to him) has the same reading as just before the deceleration, but the clock on Earth is now synchronized with it. The traveler might describe this by saying that during his deceleration, the distant clock on Earth jumps ahead by 3.2 yr, whereas the nearby clock on Alpha keeps the same reading.
Therefore, when the traveler arrives at Alpha, his clock reads 3 yr and the Alpha clock reads 5 yr, according to both the traveler and the station manager who greets him at Star Base Alpha.