What "spacelike" means... in a coordinate-free way.. in terms of events, "light cones", and radar experiments:
The interval between two events is spacelike when neither event is in the light cone of the other.
A related description: "A is spacelike-related to B" if the spacetime-vector from A to B does not point inside or tangent-to the light cone of A.
If A and B are spacelike-related,...
...All observers will agree on this.
...For a special subset of inertial observers, A and B are simultaneous.
...For a smaller subset of these observers, A and B are also equidistant.
Consider the following radar-experiment [it'll help to draw a spacetime diagram]:
Let an inertial observer send at event S [for send] a light ray that reaches the distant event B, and whose reflected-light echo is received by that inertial observer at event R [for receive]. Note that B is one event of the intersection of the future-light-cone of S and the past-light-cone of R. The intersection is a circle [generally, a sphere], which defines a [hyper]plane... all of whose events are [according to that inertial observer] simultaneous with B. (In fancier talk, this [hyper]plane is Minkowski-perpendicular to that inertial observer's worldline.)
If A also lies on that [hyper]plane, then, "according to this inertial observer, A is simultaneous with B".
[There are many inertial observers who will determine [with their own corresponding events S' and R'] that same hyperplane,
and will agree that "to them, A is simultaneous with B". There will, of course, be many observers that determine a different hyperplane containing B but not A... and thus will not regard A and B as simultaneous.]
If, more specifically, A also lies on the intersecting circle [sphere], then "according to this inertial observer, A is also equidistant from B".
[That is, some of those inertial observers who determine the same hyperplane containing A and B with their corresponding events S' and R' actually find that A and B are on the circle [sphere] of intersections of the future-light-cone of their S' and the past-light-cone of their R'.]