Hopefully this explanation will help. Assume Caleb is on the left. Consider each hand as an object. There is a Newton third law pair of equal in magnitude and opposing forces, Caleb's hand exerts a leftwards pulling force onto Emma's hand and Emma's hand exerts a rightwards pulling force onto Caleb's hand. Now consider the forces on each hand. Caleb's arm pulls leftwards on Caleb's hand, Emma's hand pulls rightwards on Caleb's hand. Likewise, Emma's arm pulls rightwards on Emma's hand, Calebl's hand pulls leftwards on Emma's hand. At the moment Caleb starts to win, the leftwards force exerted by Caleb's arm is greater than the rightwards force exerted by Emma's arm. This results in an imbalance in force of the hands, and the hands accelerate to the left. Although the magnitude of tension between hands may have changed, the tension between the hands remains a Newton third law pair of equal in magnitude but opposing forces. Part of the tension between hands is related to the mass times acceleration of Emma's hand. Part of the tension in Caleb's arm is related to the mass times acceleration of Caleb's hand, Emma's hand and Emma's arm.