ram1024 said:
see that's the thing, if simultaneity can be real at a single point, then simultaneity MUST be able to be real at a distance. not "according to an observer" but according to "reality".
to say it doesn't happen is like saying "no two things in the universe EVER happen at the same time"
whether or not they happen "at the same time to you" is merely a matter of perception and is NOT reality
Well here's the thing, and its a catch-22 for you: your definitions of words like "simultaneous," "reality," and "perception" aren't the definitions science uses. So even if you are correct that perception does not equal reality (you're not), you still have to
stipulate to it for the purpose of examining what the theory says. Otherwise, you're arguing that the sky is orange and defining orange to be the color between green and indigo. You won't get very far in science with that approach.
Regarding perception vs reality: what is perception? Its measurements, observations, data collected from an observer's reality. If these perceptions aren't reality, then there is no way to know what reality is and no use for science. Science
has no choice but to assume that our perceptions are real. Otherwise, there isn't anything that science can "know."
Basically (not surprisingly), your objections to science are philosophical in nature. And I'm sorry, but you can't ever hope to understand science if you can't accept its philosophy.
From my thought experiment, ram - what if you don't know your distance between the two distant clocks. In that case, if the signals reach you at different times, how can you figure out if the signals are simultaneous in another reference frame? (Hint: you can't.)