KurtLudwig said:
Please let me study up on gravitational lensing and stellar aberration before I reply.
I can see a problem with the idea of directing a laser from star B towards star A, since an intelligent observer is needed at star B, which is not possible. Also, how to establish when to fire the lasers at stars A and B. What is simultaneity on stars 20 light years apart?
I will have to restate the problem.
Geometric optics assumes that light moves in a perfectly straight line, as taught in an introductory physics course, with lenses and mirrors.
For some purposes, you can treat gravitational lensing just like regular lensing, i.e. you can treat space in a particular coordinate system as if it had a diffractive index.
I don't generally recommend that approach, really, as I am in favor of coordinate independent methods. It could still be useful in this particular case, though I am concerned that it might end up causing confusion in the end.
The lensing model invites one to think of the space as obeying Euclidean geometry, with the light being defelected by "lensing effects" - and one also usually ignores the entire question of the behavior of time. That's not really what happens. If one is careful not to ask questions that involve the underlying spatial geometry, it can give correct answers to finding the paths of light beams. It invites one to get incorrect answers about distances and angles, however - it can misleads one on the correct answers to those sort of questions. It also won't address the answers to questions that involve time.
Using this method of gravitational lensing in it's domain of applicability, it's fine though. The point is that the lensing effect due to a single dark mass is different from the lensing effect of a single mass that is emitting radiation - though the difference is usually minor.
Furthermore, if one has two masses, regardless of whether they are emitting light or not, there is some lensing model that describes the behavior of light around the pair of masses . But the calculational details are difficult. What one needs is the metric associated with the pair of light emitting bodies. The full non-linear calculation is very hard, and even the linearized approximation isn't easy.
As far as special relativity goes - my favorite introductory approach is Bondi's "Relativity and Common Sense", which is a very good popularization that has some actual mathematical content. However, that treatment won't really teach you what you need to know to lead into GR. The approach that would most naturally lead into GR is the treatment given in Taylor & Wheeler's "Space Time Physics". In particular, their "Parable of the Surveyor" talks about one of the fundamental points, the idea that we should talk about space-time in a unified manner , rather than as two separate concepts.
GR is a very advanced topic, though. Don't be too dissapointed if you don't get very far with it. There aren't many popular level GR books I could really recommend. Geroch's "General Relativity from A to B" is OK as far as a popularization goes, but I can't say that reading it will allow you to answer your question or help you understand anything in this thread.
I am partial to MTW's "Gravitation" for a serious treatment of GR. But it's not a popularization at all - it's a graduate level textbook. It does have a chatty style, and you might be able to get something from the chatty portion of it, but understanding the meat of it still requires a graduate level background. There are also free alternatives, such as Caroll's online lecture notes that have been previously mentioned. Caroll isn't chatty at all, but it may illustrate the difficulty of the topic.