Would you date a girl with tatoos?

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The discussion centers around personal preferences regarding tattoos and body modifications in potential romantic partners. One participant expresses a strong aversion to dating women with tattoos, viewing them as a trend that detracts from a person's appeal. They emphasize the importance of personality over appearance, arguing that judging someone based on tattoos limits the opportunity to connect with potentially compatible individuals. Others in the thread share mixed feelings, with some acknowledging that while they generally prefer partners without tattoos, they can overlook them if the person is otherwise appealing. The conversation also touches on societal perceptions of tattoos, with some participants associating them with negative stereotypes, while others defend the choices of individuals with tattoos, arguing that these choices do not define a person's character or intelligence. Overall, the thread highlights the complexity of attraction and the impact of physical appearance on dating preferences.
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Me: No way. I don't date girls who look like they should be in a motorcycle gang. Tats on the lower back, near the ankle, on the back of the neck, or on the hip just seem like an annoying trend.
 
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I'll date girl because she's fun and intelligent, not because of (or absense of) her tattoo. Judging a girl/not dating her based on a tattoo/piercing and the like is a good way to not get to know someone you might be happy with. But if someone wants to make those sweeping tattoo (or piercing gets a lot of attention) generalizations, then more power to them; I'll make my judgements by getting to know the person, not by their appearance.
 
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gravenewworld said:
Me: No way. I don't date girls who look like they should be in a motorcycle gang. Tats on the lower back, near the ankle, on the back of the neck, or on the hip just seem like an annoying trend.

So you know a girl for a few weeks and really like her. When you get in bed with her you notice a tattoo some place which is normally clothed or hidden, like mid back or something.

Do you just leave?
 
Daniel Y. said:
I'll date girl because she's fun and intelligent, not because of (or absense of) her tattoo. Judging a girl/not dating her based on a tattoo/piercing and the like is a good way to not get to know someone you might be happy with. But if someone wants to make those sweeping tattoo (or piercing gets a lot of attention) generalizations, then more power to them; I'll make my judgements by getting to know the person, not by their appearance.
Riiiiiiiiiighhtt...because I bet you never take into account something like how a girl looks when you try to hit on them because you are the king of chivalry. LOL. Yeah right.
 
gravenewworld said:
Riiiiiiiiiighhtt...because I bet you never take into account something like how a girl looks when you try to hit on them because you are the king of chivalry. LOL. Yeah right.
:confused: All physical beauty does is get me to notice a girl -- but I, for one, have absolutely no interest in hitting on a total stranger. And since physical beauty is mostly irrelevant once you know a girl's personality, I really don't understand your point of view.
 
I would definitely never date a girl with a tattoo. :biggrin: (I prefer men, and while most tattoos are initial turn-offs, I've learned to never say never, since I might get to like one before I see the tattoo, depending where it is.)
 
A possibly more relevant question: would you hit on a girl with a tattoo? Hopefully, anyone who gets to the point of the option of dating would have ahd the opp to see a little deeper than skin.


And yes. It would be a real waste to unilaterally rule out so many women before getting to know them (I guess I'm sayin' that tats are no longer a defining criterion.)

IMO, tats, whether they look nice or not, do send a message that this girl is aware of her bod and wants you to be aware of it too. Which is a bit titilating.
 
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I wouldn't mind if someone I dated had a tatoo. Because if you are already dating then you like the person.
 
I'm very inclined to say no. The day before yesterday I was at the mall and there was a nice tall blonde girl infront of me in line. I checked her out since her back was towards me. She had nice curves on the way down and then BAM a nice green tattoo on her foot. That was a deal breaker.
 
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I wouldn't mind dating a girl with a tattoo. I prefer girls who don't have tattoos though.
 
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I wouldn't have a problem with a fairly small tattoo in an inconspicuous location. Large tattoos in prominent locations; would probably keep walking.
 
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Hurkyl said:
:confused: All physical beauty does is get me to notice a girl -- but I, for one, have absolutely no interest in hitting on a total stranger. And since physical beauty is mostly irrelevant once you know a girl's personality, I really don't understand your point of view.
Would you buy a house that is nice on the inside, but looked completely dilapidated on the outside? Yes? Well good for you, not me. A complete package not only includes the inside, but also the outside.

I'm sorry but the way in which one presents themself says a lot to other people. How you dress, how you look, what body modifications you have, all send a message to people. You may not like it, but that's just the way it is and will always be.
 
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I dated a girl who had a tatoo (flower), but I found out after we started dating. She was a real sweetheart, but she was married, which I also found out after we started dating, so that kind of put a hold on things while she tried to sort out what she wanted to do. That was the women I was seeing before I met the women with whom I've been with for the last 27+ years.
 
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Cyrus said:
then BAM a nice green tattoo on her foot. That was a deal breaker.

BFD, its on her foot...
 
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Astronuc said:
I dated a girl who had a tatoo (flower), but I found out after we started dating. She was a real sweetheart, but she was married, which I also found out after we started dating, so that kind of put a hold on things while she tried to sort out what she wanted to do. That was the women I was seeing before I met the women with whom I've been with for the last 27+ years.

:smile: Yeah, that whole, "By the way...I'm married..." thing is a real turn-off.
 
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I've met many very interesting and intelligent women of all sorts. I know a woman who travels all over the world on business and has made presentations to congressional committees that, while I'm unaware of anybody mods she may have, dresses up in black vinyl bondage gear and frequents goth industrial clubs. I also know a 50 year old 'biker babe' with a tattoo who knits and is a prof with a phd in anthropology. She also dresses up and goes to goth industrial clubs.
While I often find excessive tattoos and piercings unattractive physically I don't really care as long as they are intelligent interesting women. Some times I even think tattoos and piercings are sexy.
 
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binzing said:
BFD, its on her foot...

What's BFD?
 
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Cyrus said:
What's BFD?

"big freakin deal"??
 
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I prefer f-ing, but that's why I made it an acronym...
 
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binzing said:
I prefer f-ing, but that's why I made it an acronym...

I guess you missed the part about me not liking tattoos?

I also dislike blonde women.
 
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Well yeah, excessive huge, ugly tattoos are a turn off, but one on her foot? How often are you going to be looking at her foot (unless you've a foot fetish...)

I also generally find blondes not very good.
 
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I'm not much of a fan of tattoos on the lower body in general, feet included. I don't mind them much overall, though. I've dated a few girls that were tatted up, though never in a major way. A couple even managed to look pretty wholesome anyway. It's all in how she carries it.
 
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binzing said:
Well yeah, excessive huge, ugly tattoos are a turn off, but one on her foot? How often are you going to be looking at her foot (unless you've a foot fetish...)

I also generally find blondes not very good.

How about standing in a department store with her wearing sandals. Knowing she has a tat, Id be staring at it constantly thinking to myself, 'how stupid of her'.

I know a guy who has a tat that goes around his arm. Every time I see that I can't help but think to myself, yea that makes you a really hard core bad-ass...right.
 
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Cyrus said:
I know a guy who has a tat that goes around his arm. Every time I see that I can't help but think to myself, yea that makes you a really hard core bad-ass...right.

Those barbed wire tats around the arm are the stupidest things I've ever seen.

EDIT: This would be a good time to link to the old tattoo thread we had.

https://www.physicsforums.com/showthread.php?t=228970&highlight=tattoo
 
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Definitely, but my wife says I mustn't.
 
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lisab said:
:smile: Yeah, that whole, "By the way...I'm married..." thing is a real turn-off.
Yeah - it was a show stopper. I laughed when she told me, because I expected other men were interested in her since she was quite attractive.

We were sitting in her apartment in the living room/dining room area which had two couches. I sat on one couch, she went to the kitchen to get some drinks, gave me my drink, sat on the other couch and said, "There's something I need to tell you, but I'm not sure. I hope you won't be angry, but . . . ."

All I could do was laugh, and tell her that I wasn't angry, which was true. It was an amusing situation.

She then came over to the same couch and proceeded to tell me her situation.


Since I wasn't looking around for relationships, I told her that I'd wait until she resolved her situation. She was contemplating a divorce, but wanted to see if she could make her marriage work. He husband was in prison (got busted) and was in his 2nd year of a 5 year sentence. :rolleyes: He got out early at the end of the third year. They subsequently divorced, which I found out when I went to see her to tell her that (per her suggestion) I have found someone and was engaged.
 
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I wouldn't be bothered.
 
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gravenewworld said:
Me: No way. I don't date girls who look like they should be in a motorcycle gang. Tats on the lower back, near the ankle, on the back of the neck, or on the hip just seem like an annoying trend.

It would depend on how many, how big, and what the tatoo is. In general, I don't like tatoos. A good looking tatoo is pretty rare.

With some, you wonder why they don't just tatoo the words, "I'm stupid!" somewhere on their body.

Personally, I think tatooing your address and phone number on the bottom of your foot might be useful. It could come in handy if you have too much to drink.
 
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BobG said:
Personally, I think tatooing your address and phone number on the bottom of your foot might be useful. It could come in handy if you have too much to drink.

I think this is a great idea, but that's another reason, why I think you shouldn't drink, lol.
 
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Thats only a good idea if you take your shoes and socks off before you collapse in a drunken coma. I suggest you tattoo that information on your forehead if you're that type of person.
 
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Cyrus said:
I'm very inclined to say no. The day before yesterday I was at the mall and there was a nice tall blonde girl infront of me in line. I checked her out since her back was towards me. She had nice curves on the way down and then BAM a nice green tattoo on her foot. That was a deal breaker.


Could be her way of sorting out guys who have what she considers to be 'hangups' about inconsequential things. I find it interesting that in this post you refer to her as a 'nice tall blonde girl' and a few posts later you state that you dislike blonde women. So if she had not had the tattoo and you chatted her up and dated her how long would it have taken you to realize that you don't like blonde women and sent her packing? Or would the nice curves and long legs make up for it? I'd say she's lucky she had the tattoo.
 
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My wife has a tattoo of a snake that starts on the little toe of her left foot. It spirals up her leg, then around her torso and the finally around her right arm, with the tongue "licking" the back of her right hand.

No, not really, but it would be cool! She has often stated she wanted a tattoo (not the snake I described, more like one of those "Celtic braids" around her wrist or ankle) and I couldn't possibly see how that would change how I see her.

A pierced eyebrow though...ooh, that makes my eyes water just looking at them.
 
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I actually use a tattoo machine every once in a while, so no.

Unless its tribal.
 
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I like people who arnt scared to get tatoos. so yeh its good
 
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Averagesupernova said:
Could be her way of sorting out guys who have what she considers to be 'hangups' about inconsequential things. I find it interesting that in this post you refer to her as a 'nice tall blonde girl' and a few posts later you state that you dislike blonde women. So if she had not had the tattoo and you chatted her up and dated her how long would it have taken you to realize that you don't like blonde women and sent her packing? Or would the nice curves and long legs make up for it? I'd say she's lucky she had the tattoo.

How long, after I slept with her. I'll give you a silly answer to your silly question. Ok, Ill post more seriously an answer to your question in a bit.
 
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Like with everything - it all depends on what, where and how much. Maori face tattoo will be too much, but something less blatant won't be a problem. It can be even sexy :wink:
 
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Wow, this seems pretty unanimous. I however thing tats are hot (well most tats). Of course I have a darker look myself. (blond also happens to be my least favorite hair colour).
 
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My wife has 3 tatoos, none of which are visible when she's fully clothed. I really like one of them, but the other two I'm not so fond of.
 
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NeoDevin said:
My wife has 3 tatoos, none of which are visible when she's fully clothed. I really like one of them, but the other two I'm not so fond of.

Biff SkullCrusher 4ever
NY Giants (The Team) 4ever
NeoDevin 4ever


Which two don't you like?

:biggrin:
 
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DaveC426913 said:
Biff SkullCrusher 4ever
NY Giants (The Team) 4ever
NeoDevin 4ever


Which two don't you like?

:biggrin:

I didn't know you knew my wife.
 
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Biff Skullcrusher is Dave's real name.
 
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Daniel Y. said:
I'll date girl because she's fun and intelligent, not because of (or absense of) her tattoo.

That is exactly the same as my opinion. But there is definitely a superstrong correlation between having tattoos and being unintelligent, so I would need sufficient evidence to the contrary before I dated someone with tattoos.
 
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I don't think id even care if there were tats on their face either as long as they were well done and looked good.
 
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ehrenfest said:
That is exactly the same as my opinion. But there is definitely a superstrong correlation between having tattoos and being unintelligent, so I would need sufficient evidence to the contrary before I dated someone with tattoos.

What? Have you got any peer reviewed articles to hand to back that up?
 
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DaveC426913 said:
Biff SkullCrusher 4ever
NY Giants (The Team) 4ever
NeoDevin 4ever


Which two don't you like?

:biggrin:

Well, I'd prefer:

Cincinnati Royals 4ever
Kansas City Kings 4ever
Omaha/Kansas City Kings 4ever
Sacramento Kings 4ever


I always felt sorry for that guy in the 1996 Cleveland Browns photo that had a Broncos tatoo clearly visible. Browns fans hate the Broncos.

If she was old enough to have a NY Giants or a Brooklyn Dodgers tatoo, I probably wouldn't be interested.

In other words, tatooing a sports team on your body is a really dumb idea (unless it's a tatoo of the only NBA team to be founded in California - that would be cool.)
 
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BobG said:
Well, I'd prefer:
Cincinnati Royals 4ever
Kansas City Kings 4ever
Omaha/Kansas City Kings 4ever
Sacramento Kings 4ever

Uh. I think I'd be turned off enough if she were sleeping with one sports team. If she were sleeping with four sports teams, well... I guess they'd have to invent a new term for that.
 
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Kurdt said:
What? Have you got any peer reviewed articles to hand to back that up?

No, that was just my personal observations. Of course, this depends on how you define intelligence. I kind of included academic achievement and academic motivation in my definition, not just built-in IQ or whatever. So what I meant was more like "sophistication".
 
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I don't have a problem with tattoos. As long as she's not all covered in tattoos, a few small ones here and there I think can even be cute. I especially like those tattoos some girls get on the small of their back.

These would definitely be a turn-off though:

  1. Neck tattoos— god. what were you thinking.
  2. Face tattoos— I doubt I even have to explain why this isn't a good idea... unless you're out to prove you's a thug.
  3. Back tattoos, or on the back of the shoulder— I don't know why, but it makes girls look manly to me.
  4. Piercings— I hate piercings; they are just disgusting. have you ever seen a piercing up close? ... so gross. I was with this girl once who had a tongue-piercing. Such a turn-off. I don't want some slimy metal ball rattling in my mouth when I kiss somebody.

I really hope those 4 go out of style soon because they are all horrid ideas.
 
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moe darklight said:
I don't want some slimy metal ball rattling in my mouth when I kiss somebody.

Errrrmmm... No, on the second thought, I will leave that uncommented. Let it be just metal on the tongue.
 
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Borek said:
Errrrmmm... No, on the second thought, I will leave that uncommeneted. Let it be just metal on the tongue.

I definitely could've worded it better :smile:
 
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