Yes, showing that H exists is the key. I've been wracking my brain trying to do it, but I've hit a mental block. Besides, I don't think I should cite Feit-Thompson anyway, as I would have to cite a journal article (the proof is reportedly outside the scope of this course).
I think I might have more luck with the indirect approach.
So, \nu_5\in\{1,6\}, and the 5-Sylow subgroup P_5 is normal in G iff it is unique.
Suppose \nu_5=6. Then, by a Corollary from my book, [G:N_G(P_5)]=6, the number of conjugates of P_5. Since |G|=90, this means that |N_G(P_5)|=15. Since \mathbb{Z}_{15} is the only group of order 15, the normalizer of P_5 in G must be cyclic.
Since there are 6 5-Sylow subgroups by hypothesis, let us index them: P_5^{(i)}, i\in\{1,2,3,4,5,6\}. My professor said to look at the intersection N_G(P_5^{(i)}) \cap N_G(P_5^{(j)}), i \neq j. He claims that we should find that there are no elements of order 15 in there, and thus no element of order 15 can normalize more than one 5-Sylow subgroup. This will enable us to count the number of elements of order 15. Also, since we know that the 5-Sylow subgroups of order 5 intersect only in the identity, we can cound the number of elements of order 5.
Elements of order 15: (8 generators of \mathbb{Z}_{15})x(6 5-Sylow subgroups)=48 elements of order 15
Elements of order 5: (4 nonidentity elements of order 5)x(6 5-Sylow subgroups)=24 elements of order 5
So we've accounted for 72 of the 90 elements of G.
I just have to show that the intersection of the normalizers of distinct 5-Sylow subgroups can't contain an element of order 15. So if anyone can advise me on that, I'd be grateful. Then I can start looking at the 2-Sylow subgroups...
Sorry to switch my method of proof midstream like this. But this thing is due today, and I don't see myself coming up with the proof of the existence of the subgroup of order 45 by tonight.