I'm not sure this will answer your question, but think of the case where you have a single long winding with a center tap. When you drive the full winding with an AC voltage, you see half that AC voltage at the center tap. Now drive just the first half of the winding with half of the AC voltage, and really nothing has changed, right? You still will measure half of the AC voltage on the second half of the winding, even though you are only driving the first half. That's because of the transformer action. Now think about how the dots would go on the two windings. If you dot the top of the first half winding, then you would dot the start of the second half winding at the center tap. You can also split the center tap, so that you have two separate windings, and the dots stay in the same places.