There is a difference between a clock and time. When we talk about time in Special Relativity, we are talking about Coordinate Time at a specific Coordinate Location, which together are the coordinates of an event. Both the Coordinate Time and the Coordinate Location have no interval, that is, the location is a point in space with no size and the time is an instant with no duration. There is no clock that can occupy zero expanse in space and therefore there can be no clock that marks Coordinate Time.
Take the example of a simple light clock consisting of a photon reflecting between two mirrors. The mirrors obviously cannot be at the same point in space, they have to be separated. We could (conceptually) define the time of the light clock as being indicated by the reflection of the photon off of one of the mirrors but the time indicated by the reflection of the photon off the other mirror is at a different location in space and requires a convention to establish the relationship between the two times. If you claim that the photon takes the same amount of time to traverse in both directions between the mirrors and therefore opposite ticks occur half way between the others, then you have used Einstein's convention and you can say that both parts of the light clock are synchronized or that the "clock is simultaneous with itself".
However, this is just a convention, and by that we mean it is just an arbitrary definition that gives meaning to the concept of simultaneity or synchronicity or remote time. It is not something that "nature" provides. We cannot tell if the photon "actually" takes the same amount of time to get from one mirror to the other as it does in the opposite direction.
In fact, if you consider what we do in Special Relativity, a simple light clock is only "simultaneous with itself" in its own inertial rest frame. In some other Inertial Rest Frames, the clock is not "simultaneous with itself". But we can only discuss this issue because of the definitions (postulates) provided by SR for Inertial Reference Frames. If you want to deviate to non Inertial Reference Frames, then you have to do an equivalent process of defining, that is, giving meaning to what simultaneity is.
I get the impression that you think that "planes of simultaneity" are intrinsic to nature and that we can discover them by some experiment rather than that we have to create the concept of "planes of simultaneity" in some arbitrary way. Einstein's way is not the only way, but it's the simplest that anyone has come up with so far. You could invent your own method of establishing simultaneity even for inertial situations. But since there is no standard method for non inertial situations, you have to either make up your own or reference one that someone else has established.