hutchphd said:
In fact this is exactly my point...the asymmetry comes from the change in direction
You said it came from acceleration in #50 & 52, which is a different point.
hutchphd said:
All the time the rover twin is traveling uniformly, he will see the clocks on the Earth ticking more slowly than his (and vice versa).
This is not true if you mean "see" literally. Due to the Doppler effect, the traveling twin will see the stay-at-home's clock ticking slowly on the outbound leg and quickly on the inbound leg. The stay-at-home will see the traveller's clock ticking slowly for the 80% of the trip time the traveller can be seen to be heading outwards, and quickly for the 20% of the time the traveller is seen to be inbound. (Edit: the 80/20 figure assumes a speed of 0.6c and that my mental arithmetic is reliable.)
It's only once the twins subtract out the effects of the lightspeed delay that they calculate that the other's clock ticks slowly. Time dilation is not directly observable.
hutchphd said:
Imagine his surprise when his Earth twin is older!
He won't be surprised at all if he's actually been watching the other's clock.
hutchphd said:
That extra time on Earth must have transpired during his deceleration!
This is true in a limited sense. As I noted above, the slow running of the other's clock is not directly observable. It's something that each twin calculates based on their direct observations plus some assumptions about how one should synchronise separated clocks. If the traveller does that process naively before and after the turn around then they find that what they were calling "now, on Earth" just before the turn around is not the same as what they now call "now, on Earth" just after the turn around. The difference in "now" will account for the extra time.
But this is not an effect of acceleration. It's not even an effect of changing direction. It's an effect of changing which clocks the traveling twin chose to regard as synchronised with theirs. In other words, it boils down to using one definition of "during" for the outbound trip, a different definition for the inbound trip, and ascribing the resulting inconsistency to something that happened "during" the turnaround.
For one possible non-naive resolution to this, see
https://arxiv.org/abs/gr-qc/0104077
hutchphd said:
There are pieces of general relativity that deal with acceleration
As Nugatory noted, general relativity is not needed to analyse this. You can do an analysis (for the finite acceleration case, not the instantaneous turn around) using gravitational time dilation, but that has always seemed over-complicated to me.