You should have this definition in your book:
An equivalence relation, R, on a set S is a relation (i.e. set of ordered pairs of things from S satisfying 3 properties:
a) reflexive: If x is in S, then (x,x) is in R (every member of Sis equivalent to itself).
b) symmetric: If (x,y) is in R, then (y,x) is also in R (if x is equivalent to y, then y is equivalent to x).
c) transitive: If both (x,y) and (y,z) are in R, then (x,z) is also in R (if x is equivalent to y and y is equivalent to z, then x is equivalent to z).
An "equivalence class" for a particular equivalence relation on a set, S, is a subset of S such that all members of the subset are equivalent to one another and all members of X that are equivalent to something in the subset are also in it.
A partition of a set, S, is a collection of subsets of S such that every member of S is in exactly one of the subsets.
Given an equivalence relation on S, the collection of all equivalence classes is a partition of S: every member of S is in some equivalence class because it is at least equivalent to itself, no member x, of S, can be in two different equivalence classes- if x were in both A and B, then every member of A would be equivalent to x, every member of B would be equivalent to x- by "transitivity", every member of A would be equivalent to every member of B so every member of A would be in B and vice-versa: A= B.
Conversely, any partition of S defines an equivalence relation on S: two members of S are equivalent if and only if they are in the same set of the partition.
Rad0786 said originally, "I know what a set is, and a partition. These are quit simple ideas actually. So what does P = { {a}, {b,c}, {d} } actually mean?"
How can you say you know what a partition is, and then ask what does P={{a}, {b,c}, {d}} "actually mean"?!
It is, of course, a collection of subsets of S= {a, b, c, d}. Every member of S is in exactly one of them: a is in {a}, b is in {b,c}, c is in {b,c}, and d is in {d}. That's how a partition is defined and that what it "actually means"!
As I said above, every partition defines an equivalence relation- two members of S are equivalent if and only if they are in the same set in the partition.
a is in a set that contains only itself- a is equivalent to itself (which it has to be: reflexive property) but not equivalent to anything else. As a set of ordered pairs, the relation must contain the pair (a,a).
b is a set containing both b and c- b is equivalent to itself (of course, reflexive property again) and equivalent to c. The set of ordered pairs must contain both (b, b) and (b, c) (and, by symmetry, (c, b) but we can also get that below).
c is in a set containing both b and c- c is equivalent to itself and equivalent to b. The set of ordered pairs must contain both (c, c) and (c, b) and, by symmety, (b, c) which we already knew.
d is in a set containing only itself- d is equivalent only to itself. The set of ordered pairs must contain (d, d).
The set of ordered pairs, R, representing the relation defined by this partition is {(a,a), (b,b), (c, c), (b, c), (c, b), (d, d)}.
Different example: S is still {a, b, c, d} but now P= {{a, b, c}, {d}}.
Now a, b, c are all equivalent to one another: the pairs representing that are (a,a), (b,b), (c,c) , (a,b), (b,a), (a,c), (c,a), (b,c), (c,b). d is in a set with no other members. The ordered pair representing that is (d,d).
The set of ordered pairs representing this equivalence relation is
{(a,a), (b,b), (c,c) , (a,b), (b,a), (a,c), (c,a), (b,c), (c,b), (d,d)}.
We can do it the other way: Suppose a relation, R, on S, is represented by the set of ordered pairs:
{(a,a), (b,b), (c,c), (d,d), (a,b),(b,a), (c,d), (d,c)}
We can see that a is equivalent to itself (the set of pairs contains (a,a)) and b (the set of pairs contains (a,b)) but not to c or d (there is no (a,c) nor (a,d)) so the equivalence class containing a is {a, b}. Since we already know what equivalence class b is in we don't have to do that for b.
We can see that c is equivalent to itself (the set of pairs contains (c,c)) and and d (the set of pairs contains (c,d)) but not to a or b so the equivalence class containing c is {c, d}. Of course, that is also the equivalence class containing c. The partition of S given by this relation is {{a,b}, {c,d}}.