Warning: long post!
Q-reeus said:
Huh!? We *want* physical change - that's the detection of being in curved spacetime. Things change. Please, no endless circling here.
Yes, things change. And the change means you can't use the things as standards of distance.
Here's another way of stating what I just said: the things you are saying change as a result of curvature, change because you are specifying that the objects have forces exerted on them in order to match the curvature. Those forces are external forces; they are not due to the curvature itself, at least not in the scenarios you are describing.
At the risk of piling on scenario after scenario, consider the following:
Take a piece of paper and try to wrap it around a globe. You can't; the paper will buckle. That's a physical realization of one scenario you were describing, the one where the sides of the triangles remain straight in the Euclidean sense; if we imagine the paper tesselated with tiny triangles, the paper behaves in such a way as to keep the triangles as flat Euclidean triangles. The paper may buckle along the edges between triangles, but the triangles themselves maintain their shape. So the paper can't possibly conform to any curved surface.
Now take a piece of flat rubber and wrap it around the same globe. You can do it, but only by exerting force on the rubber to deform it into the shape of the globe. This is a physical realization of another scenario you described, where we allow the triangles to adjust to the curvature of the surface; if we imagine the rubber tesselated by tiny triangles, the deformation of the rubber will deform the triangles too. But the deformation is not somehow magically caused by the globe's curvature; it's caused by us, exerting external force on the rubber to change its shape.
We can use the rubber to measure the K factor as follows: suppose that, when sitting on a flat Euclidean plane, the paper and the rubber have identical shape and area. We cut the paper into little tiny squares, and use them to tile the rubber. They fit exactly. Now we take the rubber and stretch it over the globe, and it deforms; we can see the deformation by watching the little squares and seeing that they no longer exactly tile the rubber; we might, as you say, see little gaps open up between the squares, assuming that the rubber is being deformed appropriately. But in order to know exactly how the squares will tile the rubber once it's wrapped around the globe, we have to specify *how*, exactly, the rubber is being wrapped.
Here's one way of specifying the wrapping. Take a circular disk of rubber instead of a square, and a circular piece of paper that, on a flat Euclidean plane, is exactly the same size. We cut the paper up into tiny shapes (triangles, squares, whatever you like) and verify that on a flat Euclidean plane, they tile the rubber exactly. Now take a sphere and draw a circle on it, centered on the North Pole, such that the circumference of the circle is exactly the same as the circumference of the rubber circle when the latter is sitting on the flat Euclidean plane. If we wrap the rubber circle onto the sphere in such a way that its circumference lies exactly on the circle we drew on the sphere, we will need to stretch the rubber; its area will now be larger than it was on the flat plane, and we can verify this by trying to tile it with the little pieces we cut out of the paper and seeing that there is still area left over. This is a manifestation of the K factor being greater than 1. But again, we had to physically stretch the rubber--exert external force on it--to get it to fit the designated area of the sphere.
(As I've noted before, the K factor will vary over the portion of the sphere being used for this experiment, but the average will be greater than 1; if we wanted to limit ourselves to a single value for K, we could cut a small annular ring of rubber on the flat plane, draw two circles on the sphere that matched its outer and inner circumferences, and stretch the rubber between them, and verify that the area increased by tiling with little pieces cut out of a paper annulus that exactly overlapped the rubber on a flat plane. We'll need this version for the 3-D case, as we'll see in a moment.)
All of the above is consistent with what you've been saying about how curvature of a surface manifests itself, and nobody has been disputing it. Now carry the analogy forward to the 3-D case. Here, since we're going to have a gravitating body in the center, we need to use the "annular" version of the scenario, as I just noted. We go to a region far away from all gravitating bodies, so spacetime in the vicinity is flat, and we cut ourselves a hollow sphere of rubber, with inner surface area A and outer surface area A + dA. We also cut a hollow sphere of metal (we use this instead of paper as our standard for material that will maintain its shape instead of deforming) with the same inner and outer surface area. Then we cut the metal up into little tiny pieces and verify that the pieces exactly fill the volume of the rubber. (This is a thought experiment, so assume that we can do this "tiling" in the 3-D case as we did in the 2-D case.)
Now take the hollow rubber sphere and place it around a gravitating body, in such a way that its inner and outer surface area are exactly the same as they were in the flat spacetime region. (Again, this is a thought experiment, so assume we can actually do this as we did in the 2-D case.) We will find that we need to physically stretch the rubber in order for the inner and outer surface areas to match up; there is "more volume" between the two surfaces than there was in the flat spacetime region. Again, we can verify this by trying to tile the volume of the rubber with the little metal pieces, and finding that we run short; there is volume left over when all the pieces have been used up. This excess volume is a physical measure of the K factor. (If dA is small enough compared to A, K is basically constant in this scenario, as it was in the "annular" 2-D case.)
The key fact, physically, is that we have to apply an external force to the rubber, stretch it, to make it fit when it's wrapped around a gravitating body, just as we had to apply an external force to the 2-D rubber circle to make it fit in the specified way around the sphere. So we *cannot* say that the rubber was stretched "by the K factor"--the K factor wasn't what applied the force. We did. Remember that we are assuming that tidal forces, and any other "forces", are negligible; the *only* effect we are considering is the K factor. (Again, this is easier to do because we are now dealing with a "local" scenario, where K is constant; if we covered a wider area, so K varied, we would also find it impossible, or at least a lot harder, to ignore or factor out the effects of tidal gravity. In the "local" case it's easy to set up the scenario so that tidal gravity is negligible, while the K factor itself is not; we just choose the mass M of the gravitating body and the radial coordinate r at which we evaluate K appropriately.)
You may ask, well, what about if we *don't* exert any force on the rubber? What then? In the 2-D case, the answer is that if we exert no force on the rubber, we can't make it conform to the curved surface at all. We specified one way of fitting the rubber to the sphere--so that its circumference remained the same (we checked that by drawing in advance a circle on the sphere centered on the North Pole, to use as a guide). We could specify another way--keep the total area of the rubber constant. But if we do that, then the rubber's circumference will be smaller, so again the rubber has to deform. There is *no* way to make the flat piece of rubber exactly fit to the curved surface without deforming it somehow.
For the spacetime case, it's a little more complicated, because if we take the hollow sphere of rubber we made in a flat spacetime region, and move it around a gravitating body, *something* will happen to it if we exert no force on it (other than the force needed to move it into place). But the general point still applies: there is no way to "fit" the object into a curved spacetime region without deforming it somehow. Since we can't actually wrap a full hollow sphere around a gravitating body without breaking it, consider a portion of the sphere covering a given solid angle, as PAllen proposed in a previous post. Suppose we have done all the work described earlier in a flat spacetime region: we have the inner surface area A and outer surface area A + dA measured (now not covering the total solid angle 4 pi of the sphere, but something less), and we have a piece of metal of the exact same shape and size in flat spacetime cut up into little pieces, which tile the volume of the rubber exactly in flat spacetime.
Now we slowly lower the rubber into place "hovering" over a gravitating body. We have to specify *some* constraint for where it ends up. Suppose we specify that the inner surface lies in a portion of a 2-sphere such that the solid angle it covers is exactly the same as what it covered in flat spacetime--i.e., the ratio of the inner surface area A of the rubber piece to the total area of the 2-sphere is the same as it was for the 2-sphere that the inner surface was cut out of in flat spacetime. That tells us that the inner surface of the 2-sphere is not deformed; but now we have to decide what to do with the outer surface. We have the same problem as we did in the 2-D case: if we specify that the outer surface area remains the same, relative to the inner surface area (i.e., the outer surface "fits" into a corresponding 2-sphere the same way the inner surface does--the outer surface is not deformed), then the rubber will have to stretch to match up, and there will be extra volume in the rubber, according to the K factor (which we can verify by trying to tile with the little pieces of metal and seeing that there is volume left over). Or, if we specify that we want the volume of the rubber to remain the same (i.e., we want to be able to tile it exactly with the little pieces of metal), then the outer surface area will "fit" to a smaller 2-sphere, so the shape of the outer surface will deform. And, of course, if we relax the constraint on the inner surface, there are even more ways we could deform the rubber; but there is *no* way to fit it without *some* kind of deformation.
As far as how the rubber would deform if we carefully exerted *no* force on it except to lower it into place, I think it would end up sitting with the inner surface not deformed and with the volume the same (meaning the outer surface would be deformed, as above). But even in this "constant volume" case, the shape of the rubber would still not be exactly the same. This is a manifestation of curvature, but I don't think you can attribute it to the K factor, because the K factor is measured by "volume excess" when I impose a particular constraint (having the inner and outer surfaces both the same shape as in flat spacetime, as above), and we're now talking about a *different* constraint, one where we keep the volume the same, since, as I said, that's the "natural" constraint that I think would hold if we carefully exerted no "extra" forces on the rubber.
Sorry for the long post, but this is not a simple question, and I wanted to try to get as much as possible out on the table for discussion. To summarize: the K factor is measured by "area excess" or "volume excess" under a particular physical constraint; with that constraint, K is a physical observable, but you have to be careful about interpreting what it means. More generally, curvature manifests itself as the inability to "fit" an object with a defined shape in a flat region, onto a curved region without changing its shape somehow. That change in shape requires external forces to be exerted on the object, which distort the object and make it unusable as a standard of "size" or "shape"; this is always true in the 2-D case we were discussing, and in the spacetime case, it is "almost always" true; there is *some* way to place the object without exerting any "extra" forces, and even in this case, the object's shape will not be the same as it was in flat spacetime, but its volume will be the same, as long as we can ignore tidal gravity.