rede96 said:
Yes, that is what I was trying to explain.
I think this is what I was trying to understand. I was sort of thinking of the equivalence principle and if the time dilation was the same for someone who spends 4 hours in a gravitational force of 9.8 m/s2 (wrt to me elsewhere) as it is for someone else who would spend 8 hours in a gravitational force of 4.9 m/s2
If you only use inertial frames (which I'd strongly recommend), you don't need to worry about the equivalence principle at all. The idea is to understand special relativity in inertial frames first, for which you don't need to concern yourself with the equivalence principle yet.
The twin paradox is not any more puzzling than the "triangle paradox" when the correct viewpoint is used. Adopting this viewpoint mostly consists of forgetting the notion of universal time, which seems to be difficult to get people to do.
The "triangle paradox" (which is usually not regarded as a paraodox, but rather as the triangle inequalitiy), says that if you go from A to B directly along a straight line and measure your distance with an odometer, you always get the lowest reading, while if you go from A to C and then to B, taking two legs of a traingle rather than a direct route, you will always get an equal or longer distance on your odometer, with the "equal" condition applying only when your triangle is degenerate.
The similarity with the twin paradox is quite marked, we replace "odometer" reading with a "proper time reading", we measure the proper time along a path with a clock that we carry along with us, much like we'd do with an odometer (but simpler). If you go from A to B directly, you wind up with the longest proper time, while if you go from A to C to B, you'll always get a shorter or equal proper time. There is a tricky sign reversal here, the straight line path is the longest proper time path, while it's the shortest distance path.
A key issue, as always, is distinguishing proper time, which is what a clock measures, from coordinate time. Coordinate time should ideally be viewed as a tool without any direct physical significance.
Another key issue is that straight-line motion is an absolute, and distinguishable experimentally from not-in-a-straight line motion.
Note that we don't need to introduce the concept of "at the same time" or "at the same height" at all when we solve either the twin paradox or the triangle paradox. We can introduce such notions, but it serves to make the discussion longer and more complex. There may be a small increase in understanding when we introduce these notions, but a lot of extra work. Being lazy, it's work I'd rather avoid, though I wouldn't discourage anyone from thinking about the similarities in depth.