What do 'nerdy' guys like in girls?

[SticksandStones]

I look for people who aren't nerds in the least. I'm sorry, but my work is boring. I don't want to discuss it with people outside of my work, and I sure as hell don't want to mix my love life and work life together.

For looks I'm a fan of the cute/innocent look. "Sexy" and "hot" girls would make me think about how many other twinkies were in her kitchen sinky if you will.

For personality, well I'm odd. I love nothing more than helping people through problems so if the girl has a lot of problems she needs or wants help with the better. At the same time though, it's nice to be able to have fun and discuss things that aren't bad.

Also, I don't believe in marriage or children. So if there's someone out there who often has troubles, has a cute face, and doesn't want to file taxes jointly you know where to reach me!

 

[Evo]

So you would envision something like this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8injvP1lJ8I"
Warning: this is a pretty sexist video

That's hysterical.

 

[MissSilvy]

Aside from the 1940s housewifery going on; Christ, there's large differences in opinions. The one issue I'm semi-confused about is whether a girl is intelligent in science or intelligent in the humanities.

You catch a lot of interesting conversation hanging around our physics department. One I was sitting in the corner, facing the wall and reading a book. Three guys come in and start loudly talking about their girl woes. One guy says "Psh, man. That's why you need to date liberal arts girls. They're cute but they'll never be smarter than you." When you say 'not a nerd', do you mean that having long conversations about physics isn't important or more in the traditional sense, like that a socially-awkward girl who can only talk about DnD is out, or both?

Thanks for the replies guys and girls!

 

[Cyrus]

There is a saying. It goes like this: Opposites attract.

 

[MissSilvy]

There is a saying. It goes like this: Opposites attract.

And sayings are always correct? You can easily say that people need to be similar for a relationship to work ;)

 

[G01]

I always had to ask the nerdy guys out myself. I would just go up to them and ask "where are you taking me Friday night?" It always worked. You will find that nerdy guys will answer a direct question.

OK. Here's the plan Evo:

You are going to contact every female student at my university and give them this advice and a picture of me.

I'll take it from there.

Things will be SO easy from now on!

 

[Evo]

OK. Here's the plan Evo:

You are going to contact every female student at my university and give them this advice and a picture of me.

I'll take it from there.

Things will be SO easy from now on!

No problem, send me the list!

 

[moose]

There is a saying. It goes like this: Opposites attract.

Note the term Attract. Being completely different may bring you together because it's exciting, but it rarely works out. I've seen some kind of studies about this as well, I just can't remember where...

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

Aside from the 1940s housewifery going on; Christ, there's large differences in opinions. The one issue I'm semi-confused about is whether a girl is intelligent in science or intelligent in the humanities.

I've found that women seem to have an idea of what they want in a man (or think they do) while men tend not to be sure about what they want in a woman. Women seem to be searching for someone who matches their dream man (or as close to as possible) and men are just searching, trying to figure out who their dream woman is. So among men criteria for a partner tend to be rather broad... so to speak.

Good rules of thumb are that a person will be interested in a person of similar intelligence, accomplishment/drive, and interests. And any one, or all, of these rules can be thrown out the window in the right circumstances, especially with men.

For 'nerdy guys' you will probably want to focus on being able to communicate and have intelligent conversation with them about the things that interest them. As has already been pointed out there is a definition problem for the word 'nerdy'. There are different sorts of nerds/geeks. There are computer geeks, science geeks, math geeks, lit. geeks, theatre geeks, film geeks, ect.. You're average geek realizes that most people (let alone those specififcally of the female persuasion) are not likely to share their passion and accept that. You may get bonus points for sharing this with them but it certainly isn't a deal maker or breaker. So secondary interests come into play alot. Secondary interests among geeks tend toward video games, comic books, science fiction, fantasy, strategy games (e.g. chess), logic puzzles... and even range out into not so geeky things such as poker, billiards, guns, fishing, cars, ect.. Its an incredibly wide range so what you are looking for as far as what a nerdy guy wants will generally have a lot to do with what sort of nerd you are looking for.

 

[Crazy Tosser]

Good stuff, Cyrus :D

I lol'd

BTW did you guys hear the most recent study in psychology that girls actually have as much mathematical (and abstract thinking etc.) potential as guys?

 

[rootX]

BTW did you guys hear the most recent study in psychology that girls actually have as much mathematical (and abstract thinking etc.) potential as guys?

I guess that all those studies are just full of crap. What the hell it has to do with the gender ... people become good at things in which they put their effort.

 

[Crazy Tosser]

I guess that all those studies are just full of crap. What the hell it has to do with the gender ... people become good at things in which they put their effort.

It was thought before that the male brain actually has more logical/mathematical/artistic potential and is overall better than the female brain. And now we find out it was a load of bull, that's right.

 

[Cyrus]

According to Dr. Yamaka, women have brain's the size of squirrel.

 

[Cyrus]

And sayings are always correct? You can easily say that people need to be similar for a relationship to work ;)

That's not a saying. Who says that? I've never heard anyone say that. How can a such a pretty girl...have such lousy posts?

 

[Crazy Tosser]

how can a such a pretty girl...have such lousy posts?

rofl!

 

[LydiaAC]

what qualities do 'nerdy' boys like in girls?

I am married to a nerdy man who said he was interested in me because he felt that "his words were landing". When I met him in a party he explained to me what it was a fractal, and I was sincerely fascinated about what he was saying.

 

[Crazy Tosser]

When I met him in a party he explained to me what it was a fractal, and I was sincerely fascinated about what he was saying.

So, what is a fractal?

 

[MissSilvy]

How can a such a pretty girl...have such lousy posts?

I make up for my lousy, womanish opinions with my huge jugs and large fun bags :D

 

[G01]

I make up for my lousy, womanish opinions with my huge jugs and large fun bags :D

Wait a minute... are "huge jugs" and "large fun bags' referring to different pieces of female anatomy?

If so, I definitely need to date more often...

 

[Crazy Tosser]

Wait a minute... are "huge jugs" and "large fun bags' referring to different pieces of female anatomy?

If so, I definitely need to date more often...

They are quantum-mechanically the same thing. But different.
Expanding on that, huge jugs have a definite position on the female body, while large fun bags are wave-like and have a tendency to blur your vision and thus their size is impossible to measure since they can take up your entire visual cortex. They both interfere with the ability to think clearly and logically and create a large vector field in your body, causing all blood to flow into the center of your pathetic nerdy existence.

 

[Kurdt]

Wait a minute... are "huge jugs" and "large fun bags' referring to different pieces of female anatomy?

If so, I definitely need to date more often...

No. She has capacious liquid dispensing utensils and extremely commodious bags of goodies for parties.

 

[G01]

No. She has capacious liquid dispensing utensils and extremely commodious bags of goodies for parties.

Oh, that clears it up then...

 

[SticksandStones]

Oh, that clears it up then...

T&A man, T&A...

 

[Math Is Hard]

Beautiful, Rich, HUGE tracts of land...

 

[Astronuc]

Beautiful, Rich, HUGE tracts of land...

Sounds like Montana, Big Sky country

Reminds me of

O beautiful, for spacious skies,
For amber waves of grain,
For purple mountain majesties
Above the fruited plain!

or

Oh give me a home,
Where the buffalo roam,
and the dear and the antelope play.
Where seldom is heard
A discouraging word
And the skies are not cloudy all day!

 

[Crazy Tosser]

Beautiful, Rich, HUGE tracts of land...

Montypython!

Another way to make a nerd fall in love with you is to correctly use movie references.
Srs.

 

[moose]

According to Dr. Yamaka, women have brain's the size of squirrel.

I could not concentrate on what this old man was saying.

 

[mikeknick04]

I like how when MissSilva started this thread, Evo was the first person to respond... I expected nothing less. That and Cyrus mocking every woman and even that CrazyTosser with his responses.. it wouldn't be a 'dating thread' in PF without it.

That out of the way and hopefully grabbing the attention of the frequent readers, I'll throw my hat into the ring.


When I considered myself a nerd, I found it very difficult to ask women out to do thing with me.. I just excessively mocked them to cover up my insecurity, kind of like Cyrus does.. except the girls seem to like it on here? Oh, how I love the anonymity and animosity of internet advice..


Back to the basic question though: What do 'nerdy' guys like in women? excuse me.. like in girls.. I believe was the term.

I honestly have to laugh at this question. I have a lot of 'nerdy' friends, some might consider me a nerd.. whatever.. but the thing they have in common is: if a girl can stand their nerdiness and is nice to them and they have enough in common, then we have a classic case of FFS. First ____ Syndrome. That's no joke. That's true, I've seen it happen.. a few times now with friends.

But seriously, if you break free of the first and are lost in the single world, no worries. If you can find any random girl/guy that can put up with your quirks, you have a decent shot of having something.

And if the girl is really 'dominate', she can reel nerds in like fish in a barrel. So dominate girls that are reading this, simply walk up to any 'nerd' that looks worth the time of getting to know. Easy as that.

 

[LydiaAC]

So, what is a fractal?

He said:
When you solve an integral, you see your function with a microscope so that the curves become lines.
I said:
Yes, and it is very easy to get the area of a rectangle.
He said:
So, if you have a fractal, no matter how powerful is the microscope, you will never see a simple line, you will keep seeing "cartoons".

LydiaAC

 

[moose]

When I considered myself a nerd, I found it very difficult to ask women out to do thing with me.. I just excessively mocked them to cover up my insecurity, kind of like Cyrus does.. except the girls seem to like it on here?

There's a difference between a flirty, funny, cocky way of "mocking" girls, and being creepy/annoying about it.

 

[Crazy Tosser]

He said:
When you solve an integral, you see your function with a microscope so that the curves become lines.
I said:
Yes, and it is very easy to get the area of a rectangle.
He said:
So, if you have a fractal, no matter how powerful is the microscope, you will never see a simple line, you will keep seeing "cartoons".

LydiaAC

I see, so this conversation was after how many shots of vodka?

 

[LydiaAC]

I see, so this conversation was after how many shots of vodka?

So, what is vodka?

LydiaAC

 

[LydiaAC]

Men do not know what they want. They are mysterious beings.
Check this story
http://gaceta.cicese.mx/ver.php?topico=articulos&ejemplar=122&id=232

 

[MissSilvy]

When I considered myself a nerd, I found it very difficult to ask women out to do thing with me.. I just excessively mocked them to cover up my insecurity, kind of like Cyrus does.. except the girls seem to like it on here? Oh, how I love the anonymity and animosity of internet advice..

I hardly enjoy Cyrus' stereotypical comments but sarcasm is a coping mechanism and taking him seriously seems to do diddly-squat so what else can you do?

I appreciate your input. Mocking girls in real life would get you a kick in the pants, not any sort of enjoyment, just trust me on this one. :)

 

[LydiaAC]

I hardly enjoy Cyrus' stereotypical comments

In the north of Mexico, almost all men make stereotypical comments. It is assumed that if they do not do it, they are gays, and for them being gay is worse than being a murder.
The socially expected answer from women is a nice "hee,hee,hee". Almost any other answer can lead to you being labeled as a radical feminist and to be ostracized.
In addition, most people, men and women understand feminism as "the doctrine of superiority of women" and are very urged to clear that they "hate such a thing".
LydiaAC

 

[Cyrus]

I enjoy Cyrus' stereotypical. He's the most amazing man ever...in bed.

mikeknick04, you're a creep.

How can such a pretty girl....have such GREAT posts?

 

[Cyrus]

I like how when MissSilva started this thread, Evo was the first person to respond... I expected nothing less. That and Cyrus mocking every woman and even that CrazyTosser with his responses.. it wouldn't be a 'dating thread' in PF without it.

That out of the way and hopefully grabbing the attention of the frequent readers, I'll throw my hat into the ring.


When I considered myself a nerd, I found it very difficult to ask women out to do thing with me.. I just excessively mocked them to cover up my insecurity, kind of like Cyrus does.. except the girls seem to like it on here? Oh, how I love the anonymity and animosity of internet advice..that.

HAHAHAAHAHAhah, oooooo boy. That's rich. You think I mock girls. HI-LARI-OUS.

I think you should keep your comments about how I talk to others to yourself until you've actually met me and can make such qualifiying statements. Otherwise, it comes off as foolish. Just a suggestion.

 

[Renge Ishyo]

He said:
When you solve an integral, you see your function with a microscope so that the curves become lines.
I said:
Yes, and it is very easy to get the area of a rectangle.
He said:
So, if you have a fractal, no matter how powerful is the microscope, you will never see a simple line, you will keep seeing "cartoons".

Greatest. Pick up lines. Ever.

 

[DaveC426913]

I think you should keep your comments about how I talk to others to yourself until you've actually met me and can make such qualifiying statements.

Without condoning or condemning the poster, his post is qualified ("the girls ... on here") to a scope that is within his purvue.

 

[MissSilvy]

Oh dear, guys it's all in good fun. It's just an internet forum. I'm sure Cyrus is charming in real life, no matter what odd online persona he likes to take on. No use getting upset about something like this; it's better to be upset with things worth worrying about (like that UPS lost my textbook order and I have one week until class starts).

 

[Crazy Tosser]

I'm sure Cyrus is charming in real life

Whatever you are smoking, let me have some.

 

[mikeknick04]

I appreciate your input. Mocking girls in real life would get you a kick in the pants, not any sort of enjoyment, just trust me on this one. :)

I trust you on that one. ;)


Cyrus: Perhaps I touched a nerve? I was simply making a point. Don't take it too personal; this is the internet, yet insecurities can still be read. Also, I believe it was someone else who called your posts/you 'creepy/annoying' . . . lol.

LindaAC: I have meet 'Northern' Mexicans, and your description is very accurate. They treat their women like objects. But I'm going to have to disagree on 'Men do not know what they want. They are mysterious beings.' They know what they want, but it's not always settling down and having a family or having a relationship. Usually I've found women seem to not know what they want.. lots of mood swings and insecurities. Some of the best looking women are the most insecure about their looks.. crazy.

 

[chaoseverlasting]

Whatever you are smoking, let me have some.

I'd like some as well.

 

[Cyrus]

I trust you on that one. ;)


Cyrus: Perhaps I touched a nerve? I was simply making a point. Don't take it too personal; this is the internet, yet insecurities can still be read. Also, I believe it was someone else who called your posts/you 'creepy/annoying' . . . lol.

LindaAC: I have meet 'Northern' Mexicans, and your description is very accurate. They treat their women like objects. But I'm going to have to disagree on 'Men do not know what they want. They are mysterious beings.' They know what they want, but it's not always settling down and having a family or having a relationship. Usually I've found women seem to not know what they want.. lots of mood swings and insecurities. Some of the best looking women are the most insecure about their looks.. crazy.

How can such a pretty woman...make such a LOUSY post?

 

[moose]

Also, I believe it was someone else who called your posts/you 'creepy/annoying' . . . lol.

Actually, I wasn't aiming that at Cyrus. Quite the opposite.

 

[Monique]

In the north of Mexico, almost all men make stereotypical comments. It is assumed that if they do not do it, they are gays, and for them being gay is worse than being a murder.
The socially expected answer from women is a nice "hee,hee,hee". Almost any other answer can lead to you being labeled as a radical feminist and to be ostracized.
In addition, most people, men and women understand feminism as "the doctrine of superiority of women" and are very urged to clear that they "hate such a thing".
LydiaAC

That's terrible! People making such derogatory comments about women are really emotionally immature.

 

[DaveC426913]

That's terrible! People making such derogatory comments about women are really emotionally immature.

If LydiaAC's comments are correct, it seems to be a culture-wide thing, not laid at the feet of the individuals.

 

[cristo]

Cyrus: Perhaps I touched a nerve? I was simply making a point. Don't take it too personal; this is the internet, yet insecurities can still be read. Also, I believe it was someone else who called your posts/you 'creepy/annoying' . . . lol.

How can such a pretty woman...make such a LOUSY post?

I think you two need to stop bickering!

 

[Monique]

If LydiaAC's comments are correct, it seems to be a culture-wide thing, not laid at the feet of the individuals.

So if everyone is doing it, it is ok? That is nowhere near an excuse.

 

[cristo]

Within the context of the words used, 'nerdy' is equivalent to 'intelligent but deficient in social skills'.

So... why would any girl be attracted to such a guy? How lame would it be to have a partner that you can't socialise with, and can't introduce to people for fear of embarassing you?